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About Gabriel Raam

A creative and radical thinker. His essays have a unique view of the life and of people. (And so are this podcasts).

He was a lecturer and expert of non-verbal communication, who has studied theater, education, and literature, Mr. Raam has been involved for many years in the research, participation, and study of expanding and developing the field of consciousness. Has published several books on inner work, and essays on consciousness, as well as books on body language. He is interested and writes about highly sensitive persons (HSP) outsiders and rebels. He believes that with regard to the state of spirituality and culture today – it is precisely these people that can stream into the culture a vision, new knowledge, and fresh blood.

FORWARD

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One of the greatest diseases of today is inner emptiness, which lies at the base of many people’s dissatisfaction with life. For these dissatisfied people, the psychologist’s door is open. But psychology assumes we are complete as we are, and, moreover, that we are pursuing happiness or a balanced life.

Yet it is not unhappiness or lack of balance that is causing our inner emptiness, it is our incompleteness. Many seekers feel this incompleteness and embark on a journey of self-development, in order to reach what we could and should be.

However, the self-development needed to become complete is only the higher part of the journey. What is most commonly overlooked is one extremely basic area with which this book is largely concerned: facing your life and then, actually having your own life.

Many seekers of truth, wisdom, and self-development give up having a full, real life, in their quest for consciousness awakening, or illumination. This is a mistake, for without a full vibrant life, which involves a constant inner vitality or activity, there is no base, no ground in which the roots of higher development can establish themselves. So, actually having your life is a prerequisite for the quest to develop the higher faculties and become a whole, full person.

But it is not easy, for without self-acceptance – which means accepting and being at peace with what you cannot change in yourself, particularly your weaknesses – you cannot have a life at all. And without a life, your journey will operate in a vacuum, and you will go around in circles.

And so, this book is about confronting the need to have your life and learning self-acceptance. Only from this base can the journey begin.

The book is primarily an original, current group of related essays, but it is also eclectic and draws on various sources, which give it a frame of reference, body, and support. Just to name a few of such influential sources and philosophers:

• Martin Heidegger
• Heraclitus the Obscure
• R. D. Laing
• P.D. Ouspensky & G.I. Gurdjieff
• Existential philosophy
• Zen Buddhism
• Kundalini
• Sufism
• Quantum physics
• Hasidic philosophy                                                                                            

The book is primarily an original, current group of related essays, but it is also eclectic and draws on various sources, which give it a frame of reference, body, and support. Just to name a few of such influential sources and philosophers:

• Martin Heidegger
• Heraclitus the Obscure
• R. D. Laing
• Existential philosophy
• Zen Buddhism
• Kundalini
• Sufism
• Quantum physics
• Hasidic philosophy

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Content

There are no disagreements among the experts and researchers regarding its influence and the place that body language occupies in interpersonal communication.

But if you connect the tone of voice with eye contact together you get about 93.00% which is the total volume of the entire communication.

 The great omission of body language or non-verbal communication          

That leaves only a measly 7 percent for words.

In other words, most of the communication is realized not by what we say – but how we say them. The body is responsible for the emotions we convey through it, and the words only deal with rational understanding.

The big problem is that when we internalize the enormous importance of words in relation to what we see and in relation to what we hear – then a huge frustration must arise in us, because if the body represents the true self, we are lost because we are captives in a world of words. And this is because we simply do not speak the language of the body. We do not understand the signals that others send us,

And so a paradox was created: it is difficult for us to come to terms with the fact that body language is so effective that it forms the core of interpersonal communication.

Because we are used to referring only to words, whether written or oral and language

The body is perceived as background noise, for example: when the chair suddenly moves backwards, we tell ourselves that it is because of a matter of comfort.

The body transmits something that neither the receiver nor the transmitter is aware of.

We learned to ignore the body’s signals.

And so it happens that a person can learn body language, but since everything is based on logic, it is very difficult for him to assimilate what he learned about body language – and then he soon slides into the safe place of words.

And this is that although in the behavioral sciences they insist on 90 percent dominance of tone of voice and eye contact – we firmly refuse to use body language consciously while taking responsibility for what our body and voice transmit. So after learning a little about body language – we immediately rush to suppress our signals, whether visual or auditory.

And so it is precisely after body language has been scientifically validated that we stop using it consciously. Just the mind is too domineering.

It did start with a huge curiosity about the body’s transmitters, but our entire system is so enslaved to the kingdom of words – that the body’s transmitters are pushed into a corner.

Body language should be as natural to us as it is to animals, but we invented a foreign language, the language of words, and our root and original language is not in use.

We live only with the help of reason and logic, and suppress the emotional transmitters of the body.

And after we got a glimpse of the secrets of the body, it’s time to take the body out of the shackles of the tyrannical mind and all the vital channels of the body get covered in dust, become blurred – and we abandon the wisdom of the body and instead want back the garlic and onions we ate in Egypt

The body and the wisdom of the body can save us from the dominance of the intellectual mind that we have reigned over our media life.

And so words are conducted without prompting and our attitude towards our body and that of others is becoming flat, and there is no awareness of the transmitter that is hidden behind the words.

And if a few years ago we had body language as a tempting gift, today it has returned to the bosom of reason – and the body remains only an accessory of convenience.

We live upside down. The body should set the tone in the relationship, not the flat and one-dimensional mind.

In conclusion – we discovered body language for several decades, but today the whole subject of body language has become more and more blurred. We return to a body stopped within itself. When the words came back to take the throne.

There is something in it                            when SOME one enter some place

There are people who when they enter some place people notice them, meaning that if there is a line of people and they stand at the end of the line people notice them and there is even a person who will move aside and tell him, stand in front of me. Or even a person at the beginning of the line will tell him, bypass the whole line and be first.
Now the same person whose turn is turned over doesn’t understand why it’s happening to him? But people notice him. They don’t know what they notice, but there is something about it that catches their attention, so they make room for it. He doesn’t look different from anyone else but they notice him, something about him catches their attention. You can call it charisma, presence, magnetism, face exclusion. They notice him and something in them makes them relate to him.

He looks perfectly normal but he is radiating something. A little four-year-old girl can suddenly look at him for long minutes, smile and not know why she’s looking at him.
If he comes to a place in some capacity, say a lecturer, he is immediately noticed. Immediately someone approaches him and says, ‘Are you the lecturer?’ There is nothing in him that indicates that he is the lecturer, but there is something in him that suggests that he must be the lecturer.
When he enters a cafe he receives special treatment; They don’t spread a carpet in front of him, they don’t pour him more coffee, but he gets special treatment. The smile of someone across the counter may be a little wider, she may be kinder, she will pay more attention to him. She will pay more attention. She won’t know why but something about him will give her a feeling that she would like to be more helpful towards him. There might be some kind of human warmth in him, some humanity in him, something in him that would touch her and she wouldn’t know what.

Even though he looks normal, you can’t be indifferent to him, there is something about him that neutralizes indifference and in other words he is special without behaving in a special way and here is the catch. If he behaved in a special way, dressed in a special way, walked in a special way, stood in a special way, spoke in a special way, with a loud voice – that would not be wisdom. The whole thing is that he’s really, really, really unattractive, and yet there’s something human about him that attracts attention. Something in his presence that is so lacking in ordinary people makes him notice because people are usually absent of presence while he is full of presence. His approach to people is full of empathy, full of humanity, he pays attention to everyone, and people need it so much that’s why they pay attention to him and that’s why they ask him if he needs anything, it’s a return to humanity where they are not aware of it but they must respond because something in them that You don’t even know that he exists, he needs what he is so full of, and that is humanity.

Again, you can call it face exclusion, charisma, presence, magnetism, but this is missing in people who are faceless, the people of everyone like everyone else, similar to each other but there is something special about them. In him there is humanity, a human attitude and reference that includes the other. There is a presence and people must tell him you will bypass the queue, you will be in front, something in him urges them to put him at the head of the queue and they have no idea why they are doing this and it is his soul that makes them have to treat him, they cannot deny because the soul is so lacking in all the unique people they meet. That’s why they turn his turn.

The Three and the Duo

Let’s start with the individual, with a single person, if he is alone and does not make a covenant with another human being, he is limited, imprisoned himself, and whoever wants to get out of it returns to him.

So when all his hexagons meet someone, he immediately comes back to himself. He doesn’t connect with a pair, a friendship.

A person alone cries out to connect and be two, and if the connection succeeds, he can stand in front of everyone, because now he has backup. And the mutual and automatic backing puts both of them in a kind of bubble that is only theirs and together they will be able to withstand many troubles and public opinion without breaking.

A person alone

The Three and the Duo

A person alone – the whole world ignores him, he is nothing. But with someone else with him, it’s an entire army.

Public opinion says that it is much better and healthier for a person to be with someone else. A lonely person is considered a sad person

\”The best of the haters from the brother Ash’ar have a lamb in their labor” (Ecclesiastes 4, verse 9)

The phrase explains that if a person works with someone else, he gets to see more fruits for his efforts..

     Joining forces, it is better to be in two (or more) than alone. The power of the two is greater than that of the individual, in every aspect of life..

     But there are situations in which the individual decides to adhere to the version of the rule even if this justice does not coincide with the social norm. This situation is called, conformism. And it is defined as the deviation of the individual from behavior according to an accepted social norm.

Another thing that came up in most of these studies about conformity was that the hardest thing is to go against it alone. But if someone joins the rebel, even one person, then there is a reasonable chance that the one who resisted will succeed in not succumbing to group pressure. Therefore, many of those who want to rebel are trying to rally more people around them. Most people, if they knew that there was someone (preferably in a senior position) who supported their unusual opinion, and who would provide an “umbrella” to cover them in the face of majority aggression, would more easily oppose things that did not seem to them

Aristotle wrote his thoughts on friendship in a treatise known as the Nicomachean Ethics. Before approaching the core issues, Aristotle mentions the importance ofother good relationships.”He goes on to explain that every class and age gains and thrives because of human connections, but in his opinion, for different reasons. Young people, for example, need friendships to find their way in the world, while adults use friendships as support and support as the body weakens. This is, of course, a partial picture of why connections are made, but there is a kernel of truth at its core. The philosopher attributes much broader significance to the bonds of friendships than the personal aspect alone. When maintained by interpersonal relationships.

               At the same time, Aristotle argues that true friendships often arise from facing great challenges together. Lying These friendships will usually last for many years, and even gaps in time and space will not easily undermine their foundations. Another characteristic is that despite their altruistic element, true relationships provide both benefit and pleasure.

Judaism finds positive value in societies. In Pirkei Avot, make you a rabbi and buy you a friend, (Tractate Avot 1:6,)

This, too, points to the importance of friendship. Maimonides in his commentary on the Mishna in Tractate Avot lists three types of friends: a utility friend, a marine friend, and a virtuous friend. A “friend of utility” is a friend of utility, like partners, or friendships of a king and soldiers. All parties benefit from the companies. A Marine member is a friend with whom friendship brings comfort and contentment. Another member is the lover of virtue, a friend as a friend of the rabbi to the student and the student to the rabbi

The Talmud tells of Rish Lakish and R. Yochanan. There it ends in tragedy, but the wonderful friendship between the robber and the Rebbe is something that blows from the story and touches us here and now and illustrates a little of this feeling of true friendship. And it also existed in reality, for example in the Middle Ages in Turkey, the wonderful and tragic story of friendship between the sheikh of Tabris and the great Sufi poet Jalal al-Din Rumi

After it became clear who was the superior of the two, then, and only then, a friendship alliance was formed between the two

A strong and courageous friendship that belongs mainly to men, is called”—.Comradeship, which is a partnership of destiny in which the qualities of masculinity at its best converge..
In the last two stories, that of the two Sufis and the two sages of the Talmud, we find some interesting lines, one of the two was a robber or empty and a poacher and the other a revered sage. And the bonding between them was such that the covenant became supreme and more important to them than their lives. And in both cases it ended in a tragic death, at least of one of the two. It is about this male friendship in which both men begin the friendship with a test of mutual strength and determination and the loser respects the winner and becomes his friend. And accepts the better of the two, and sanctifies friendship over self-aggrandizement. Where does it exist today? And if it starts that way, (dealing without intentions of hostility or destruction of others) and ends with the decision of the stronger of the two once and for all

Now we know who is strong and leading and can be free to really engage in friendship, for it is she who matters

. Friendship between men. A fierce partnership of fate, embarking on a journey at personal risk for the sake of reaching the destination together. Thus friendship between men

. And just as male friendship is a forged steel of two links that combine to form a strong and inseparable chain – female friendship is the gate of mercy, it is a soft bed of acceptance and kindness – into which all the officers sink and no longer have power

In men, the strength of the one gives strength to the one who is weakened. For women, tenderness – enables the restoration of the inner tenderness lost due to the hardness of life

For from them we lived without friendship
For from them we lived without male friendship
For from them we lived without female friendship
Abandoned and heartbroken. Disappointment and bitterness

So much for life alone.

Part Two

Power Tree

We started with the individual, who, being an individual, is imprisoned within himself.

The years are better than the one who has a good reward for their labor: for if they fall, the one will raise up his friend, while the other will fall, and there is no other to raise him: even if they lie down for years and it is hot for them, and for one how it will be hot: and if they attack, the years will stand against him, and the triangular thread will not soon break

Seferi Deuteronomy Parashat Netzvim paragraph 6

I wrote that when the individual joins another individual, and they are two, they can withstand attacks from the others, the majority.

But two in themselves balance each other, and they remain as an isolated unit, unless they manage to get through a phase and establish themselves as a trio.

The most basic and powerful trio is a trio, which consists of a neutral, vertical and horizontal axis. These are the three dimensions of the most basic unit, the triangle.

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Rabbi Shimon says:

Three who ate on one table,

And no words of Torah were said about him,

Such ate altars of the dead,

It is said (Isaiah 28:8):

Because every store filled with vomit came out without a place.

But three who ate on one table,

And they said words of Torah about him,

They ate from the table of the place, blessed be He.,

It is said (Ezekiel 14:22):

And speak to me is the messenger who before the

What does the phrase “And the triangular thread will not soon be severed” mean?

The phrase is taken from a verse in Ecclesiastes chapter 4, verse 12

. And if they attack, the brothers will stand against him, and the thread will soon be cut off..

The literal meaning of the expression refers to a string or rope that is woven from 3 thin threads, each of which is weak and easy to tear on its own, but when weaved together they are much more powerful.

In the Mishnah as well as in modern Hebrew, the expression is used, it is worthwhile to denote something that has high durability and immunity, as if it were composed of several “layers of protection” or shields that guarantee it strength and durability over time.

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Rabbi Meir, when he saw one setting out, would call out to him: Shalom Aleichem ben Mitah.²⁶Two – he would call out to them: Hello there, my husband, a fight.²⁷Three – He said to them: Peace be to you, my husband.²⁸

Rabbi Yochanan said: The years are better for each other, “from the one” – one for himself and one for herself.²⁹“And the triple thread” – this is the Almighty that He commands in the boys.

thi’s theory of cognitive or cognitive balance mainly explains a change in attitudes, but is also relevant to their initial acquisition… The theory assumes that man tends to maintain conscious balance in his world. It is a subjective feeling, involving the feelings he has for others and the attitudes of both on a specific subject. According to the theory, each person’s relationship with others consists of a triangle, whose vertices are the person(p), the other(o), and a subject or object(x) that interests both. The relationships between the three vertices can create balanced and comfortable states of consciousness or unbalanced and stressful states “.

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However, in this way we can understand the verse above: the triple thread is the thread that connects me and my friends and our shared ideals.

It also appears (and similarly in other places, for example in Jacob and Laban’s Gilead.:

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give shape to emotions

Within each of us there are emotions and feelings; From time to time we try to talk about them, speak them, write them down – put them into words. It’s usually a struggle, it’s hard, it’s like trying to put water in a straw basket: in the end it will be a struggle. A wet basket but without water in it… Such is the feeling, slippery, with its liquid character, and it is not easy to put words around it to capture it, words that can convey the feeling itself, or at least, the connection to the feeling. “It is a mitzvah that if they are written or spoken, every time we listen to it, we will raise the original emotion. The awkward word. Some fear that it would be rape to convey feelings in words, they say &you can’t talk about it, you have to feel it&, or, &I have no words for it&.But I prefer to write the positive side of adding feelings in words, some of the greatest enlightened works of humans are the true meaning of it: an attempt to capture the essence of human emotion and put it into words. Whether it’s in literature, poetry or theater performances. Want to defend and explain this idea of describing an emotion in words.  First of all, some fragrances to absorb and think about::
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to express something in words (give it form)
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To give something a shape (give it life).
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“When we die, we lose our form.) And thus bring the thought: is the formless emotion not ali#e* probably not. If the soul can live without a body, than it is an #unreal existence.” To shape the soul has no realization, presence or ability to communicate and respond to the environment. It seems that the body is less soul so is the wordless emotion, it is ali#e, but as a ghost, in the gray area between the li#ing and the dead. Movements that are not captured by thought, wonder here and there or mingle (in other words: they resemble the bent grass that corrupts creation and human intelligence, stops us from the Renaissance.) Something is to give it form, to li#e is the ability to create, and that You can only do if you have form. Well-designed lines border your being, define it, characterize it. The form allows something to be and at the same time prevents it from going wild and spreading around.) This is the great paradox of life, we are limited by our form, but it is what allows us to exist. “Without the form and the counter we do not have an individual, autonomous and delimited existence from the outside. ) defined autonomy allows us to realize.  And not only reality, but also function, creation and communication.  Only when something is clear and well defined, it can communicate with other clear and well defined beings. ) Communication is taking an amorphous idea from the brain emotion into words or esters. And this is the case in communication and creation, if we can take that amorphous idea into word form, than we can create. 0Creation is to give something in a form.) The intention is in the field of communication and art. In the area of religion and spirit there is an attempt to refine, reduce and sometimes eliminate the form in order to increase the

A connection to the essence of spiritual religion in a person. Sometimes, in some religions and spiritual heights there is a misunderstanding about life. ) To reach higher levels spiritually, you must not shun the form and try to connect the spirit with its abstract essence. The body is not an enemy of the soul but its complement, its expression, the body is a way to reach the spiritual. Pirotism that does not understand and supports the body as stairs and the path to the spiritual and exalted person – leads to a dead end. The body is not an antithesis to the spiritual essence and the raw soul, on the one hand it is his. Just a &tool& expression, on the other hand it is the only way to communicate with the spirit and the soul. It is easy for the young and disunited person to see the form as an enemy of the spirit, but the connection without form and boundaries is lost and takes shape without the context is nothing but a coffin.) The essence of birth is to clothe a well-defined shape around soul and spirit.) The words describe the feelings, from this point the feelings start to run wild. Feeling, from the moment we describe and express our feelings, the feeling can create, can do something. A movement that we are not aware of or are aware of but do not understand, it is like a ghost inside us, weakening us from the inside. But words can sometimes hurt feelings 1) life and death by the thong 2) that happen when words are not. Targeting the essence of the emotion, its internal dynamics, instead they come from external ideas, labeling it according to a general thought. ) His act does not give birth to the emotion, but puts it in a coffin before it is born.

punishment of the successful rebel

radical writers

A breakthrough could be a dangerous affair for a radical writer -that which he attacks must attack him back, as wrote Isaac Newton:

Who is allowed to deport whom?
Only the strong side is allowed to expel the weak.
In the eyes of the ruler, the very control is the main thing.
And the only sin of the other person in his eyes is to remain weak.
Relationships often break down because of one party’s excess of control.
And the one who pays the price for the disconnection is the party in the relationship who is portrayed as weaker.
A friendship or family closeness that is based on the control of one side is a false closeness because if the controlled side revolts – the ruler immediately throws him down all the stairs.
Yes, in the end in many cases power and control are the determining factor when it comes to the question of whether the relationship will survive or fall apart.
Your friends and relatives will not forgive you if you allow yourself to show weakness.
In general, we don’t like weak friends or relatives.

Addendum: People may forgive you for all kinds of things but for one thing they will not forgive you, in the current cultural climate you are allowed to be anything just don’t be weak.

The question of evil                 The question of evil

The question of evil

The question of evil is one of the central questions in life. between a person

And this is one of the questions that your mind is full of. {The question of human evil}.

But there was no show more distilled to human evil than the concentration camps. But I see this as another downward step toward more evil, and more evil. on the way

The evil we experience is but the foam of the waves

Above the abysses of cliffs there is another evil in us.

One example for you is a boycott imposed on another child. Collective evil towards a helpless being, and when he grows up, evil wears the masks of adults, but it is the same collective evil that boycotts those who are not like them. They want to be as much as the majority. And always under the guise of middle-of-the-road fairness.

In your book it is written to protest the memory of Amalek.

https://he.wikipedia.org/wiki/%D7%9E%D7%97%D7%99%D7%99%D7%AA_%D7%96%D7%9B%D7%A8_%D7%A2%D7 %9E%D7%9C%D7%A7

If we don’t go to war against Amalek of evil, then he is the one who will decide, because the power of the negative and destructive will always be the most powerful and stronger.

The power of evil to do evil is greater than the power to do good.

The power of hatred is to overshadow the subtle powers of the soul. When the power of evil meets the psychic power, the psychic power does not have enough powers to cope…

{Underneath what they did to the Jews there are still tons of evil, unmitigated evil.}

There is a book by William Golding, called Baal Zevub:

Golding’s goal was to provoke thought about the true nature of man, which often turns out to be far from utopian and even instinctive and cruel. On the question of the nature of human nature: is man fundamentally good and the institutions are the ones that corrupt him or is man inherently bad, Golding is more inclined to the second option. In doing so, Golding takes a position on a question that is discussed both in various philosophical discussions and in the debate between the liberal current and the realist current in international relations. The book must also be understood against the background of World War II, which the book was written at the end of. Golding largely tries to answer in his book the question of how extreme ideologies like Nazism and Fascism were able to capture the hearts of the masses and seize power. {Wikipedia}.

Evil has descended into the world and you are the dark part of the world and the human soul.

There are two poles here: the sensitive and therefore feel weak and unprotected. And the powers that be also want the lamb of the more sensitive and vulnerable,

https://he.wikipedia.org/wiki/%D7%9B%D7%91%D7%A9%D7%AA_%D7%94%D7%A8%D7%A9

For the representatives of evil, anyone who shows signs of weakness and helplessness is a victim.

We learned how to disguise our dishonest intentions. But what misleads is that we have learned to wear the overalls of sane normality over the garment of evil.

There is no other way. We must go to battle. to answer a sword with a sword.

The evil force only understands the language of force.

Evil is the essence of what curses humanity and humans.

What do we do with the increasing evil?

The essence of evil is to destroy everything that is sensitive, even that which constitutes the first shell of the soul.

There is no other way, we must go to battle. to answer a sword with a sword.

The powers of the mind have hidden powers, its power is quantum.

But first of all he must connect to the minerals of the soul and from there go into battle.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/We_shall_fight_on_the_beaches

Evil is fought there is no other way. Do not negotiate with evil.

Sometimes there is no choice and evil is standing in front of you. David versus Goliath, it’s time for battle.

Because power understands only one language – power.

The time has come, he didn’t apologize, we can’t be victims of the violent and rude forces whose whole aim is to take over the large part of the sensitive and vulnerable.

https://he.wikipedia.org/wiki/%D7%A8%D7%95%D7%A2

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Psychology of Evil[edit source code | editing]
During the 20th century, a number of psychological experiments were conducted which showed that every person probably has some degree of evil and under certain conditions he can become evil. Milgram’s experiment which began in 1961 showed that most people will be willing to cause suffering to another person without batting an eyelid under the pretext of blind obedience to authority, and a very high level of obedience can be achieved if the actions are gradually aggravated. Philip Zimbardo, who is today considered the world’s leading researcher on the psychology of evil, showed in an experiment he conducted on a group of students at Stanford with no criminal record that ordinary people could be degraded into committing terrible acts on their friends while dividing them into a group of prison guards and their prisoners.

The conclusion from the two experiments was that there is a slippery slope of moral degradation to the most despicable acts that are done while taking advantage of the instinct of obedience inherent in man, when the way to avoid this is to constantly examine the acts:

The most important thing is supervision. If there is a strong and real external supervision of your actions, you will do much less evil. There is also a need for random internal supervision, which makes surprise inspections and punishes the guilty, as well as regular external inspection. Without supervision, there is no limit to what humans will do to other humans.

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One of the terrible stories from the Gitin treatise. A story of betrayal and humiliation. The lowest ebb you can degenerate to. This is a story of abysmal evil.

A story that appears in the tractate ‘Gittin’ is a story about a tragic romantic triangle. A story about a carpenter who had an apprentice, the apprentice set his sights on the carpenter’s wife. Desire her. Later the carpenter needed a loan and the apprentice offered him a loan, and asked him to send his wife and lend to her. The carpenter sent the woman. She stayed three days with the apprentice. When the husband came to look for her, the apprentice told him that he sent her immediately but heard that she had been raped by young men on the way. The frightened husband did not know what to do and the apprentice suggested that he send his wife away. The husband said he had no money for her address and the apprentice offered to lend him again. So it was. The husband borrowed the money, sent the woman away and the apprentice married her. Later the owner did not have the money to repay the loan and the apprentice offered him to work for him for the money. In the last picture of the story, the apprentice, his wife who was previously the carpenter’s wife are sitting eating and drinking as the carpenter fills their glasses and his tears fall into the wine. At that hour the Gemara says the sentence was sealed. This is a story about a lying and greedy apprentice, and about a husband who lets his wife go for three days and kicks her out after she is raped, and about a woman who can drink and eat

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Four refections concerning the reality o soul lie

Life without soul

People talk and people think. And people relate. And the soul has no room, as if it does not exist. There is no comprehension of the principles that guides the soul, not to mention aholistic view, of the world in which she lives.

 The soul is not tangible and perceptible within the restricted boundaries of the rational world, the senses, and social norms – in which our life is being conducted.

And indeed, those three: rationalism, senses and norms, are the three boundaries the create the prison of our perception. We can relate onl to things that appear inside this three bared cage.

-!ne bar “of this cage# is the rational thinking: whatever seems and sounds rational land conceivable to us.

-Another bar is the $ve senses: touch, sight, smell, taste and hearing.

-The third bar is the social norms: the conventional wa of perceiving life and living.

 The soul %lives% outside this small prison, in the %nature reserves% of the arts& There, she is protected in: a gallery, a theater or a concert hall. ‘ut there she is also isolated, and sterile. in those places our get

living and beating dynamic

 of soul-life. What we end there are the remains of something, a resemblance of the soul. indeed, she is saved in the life it is almost impossible to end her.

We miss her, not only in the outside world, but also within us & there we put much attention to our emotions, desires and ambitions, but never to the existence of the soul. *cost people perceive her as some kind of fantasy or a pipe dream. ‘ut actual her existence is very much a reality is more real then all that is concrete and perceptible for our senses and usual awareness.

it seems to us as if she is simple not there.

But she is

it is us who are not here for her. he is the greatest loss of our lives. Or us, her existence is a loud void, a painful absence. An absence that resembles adept abandoned concert hall that was once led with classical music and now is full with a bothering silence. our never heard music plating there, our will not sense this pain, but for those who remember and long for it, entering this place will be opined forever with an ongoing sensation of grief. This analog is a bit lacking, because longing for the soul is deferent from longing to what 0ou used to have. )t is the longing for something our should have and could have, but never had “only in rare glimpses,

[for some people).

 The best wa to describe the absence of the soul is as the combined sensation of aphantom limb of an amputated leg and the feelings a single man has toward the void of the spouse he never had. We can visit the soul in the exile of the arts, but it is must like visiting a relative imprison & the guards are looking over our shoulders and the experience is limited in time and led with restrains. it must be brief, and us cannot consummate with our soul.

 Those brief visits of the soul in the domains of the arts, can take place while reading a book, listening to ‘ach, reading poetry, and perhaps it can even occur inside a few rare fractions of life. These are moments when our soul is allowed a stroll within the tall stone walls of the prison ward. We forgot to remember the possibility of having a life that is in touch with the soul&

Soulful way on living

.

We live without her. And where there is no soul, everything is dead, empty denied of its own dynamics and juice.

Without her we are always on the search for replacement “stimulations#& that will keep our minds o the loud void. And as the void becomes louder, the search becomes more intense. We prefer stimulations that are overwhelming, so we won’t to feel evena shred of the soul’s void.  f we sense this void, we panic into an intense search for immediate stimulations, in the expectation that it will dull and dim our anxiety that awakens out of this loud void.

That’s the last frontier

That’s the last frontier

The last frontier

We are all believe that we are born in order to live.

We dedicate our life to the grate journey and stimulation of being alive. We are swapped by the up going and down going waves of our depressions and hi spirit, one day like this and one day like that.

We living our life totally dedicated to this up going and down going of our life.

We look at it as a grate journey and not only as a journey as a big mountain to climb and to achieve the wonderful amazing things that life can offer us and we run on this mountain towards the top, ripping whatever we can find on the way.

We are so dazzled and so over taken by the sharp terns of the journey that we are totally identified with it, whatever is good is grate and whatever is bad is horrible and we all the time dedicate our life to achievement’s. To achieve, to achieve more than our neighbors it’s a big race and we must win.

We think in our foolishness that’s life itself, its journey and its promises is the real thing and more we dedicate our life to its ups and downs the more alive we become.

We are drunk by life. Dazzled by what it has to offer, completely identified whit what is happening to us.

All this is come to say that whiles we are so immersing in what is happening to us we forget that it’s only a temporary journey that start one day and time is finishing it bit by bit until we grow older and less capable, we forget the end.

We are so caught by the net of what life has to offer, we forget that life is only a journey towards its finishing line. We don’t think about it, we forget about it, we push it down so over taken and identifying whit what is happening to our petty little life that we forget that every day which passes we are becoming less, every day which passes we are older, less capable and more close to the final crescendo.

The thought that the end might reach us like it reach our fathers and mothers seems like a nightmare to us completely unreal, it happened to them but it is so far from happening to us. So far that we look at it as an imagination and one day its must come, one day all this journey white its ups and downs and misleading illusionary promises must come to a hold.

As much as we deny it we can’t get read of it because it will reach us in the end. And when the end comes it is so miserable, so it happened to us and we completely helpless forgetting all the dedication that we had before, crumbling like a helpless flower into our approaching death. Don’t have even the smallest power of resistant, of staying against and saying I will die a dignified death, it’s true that i leave a mingles life but at list my death could be dignified.

It was the grate Beethoven that was subconscious for a few days before he died and people surround him testified that when he was just about to close his eyes he raised his fist against haven whit the last gesture of protests and then he closes his eyes.

We don’t know how to depart. We know how to begin, we know how to continue, we know how to survive but when it comes to our on end we just perish in a miserable way like we never lived before.

There might be parting from the dear ones but no one is rising one last first as protest against haven like grate Beethoven did.   

Do not go gentle into that good night

Dylan Thomas

1914 – 1953

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

On how special people are being treated                               special people

Part one:

When we view most people, we see them mostly as they are, regular people.
But viewing unique or– a strange phenomenon happens; their uniqueness exist on a bar with two ends, no middle, and one end is the shadow of the uniqueness part.
Now, most people are not connected to their higher end (because of personal involvement, hurt, self-doubt and self-judgment and more), and from the lower end in them – they cannot see the higher part of the unique person, only the shadow. (The shadow could also be called: his weak point).

 Now, the greater is his high state, the greater would be his weakness.
So much so, that it might cause others to judge him and even disconnect from him altogether.
People see others according to their own state of mind. And if they are in a low, negative, or closed – state of mind – they cannot see his high self. So when they view uniqueness in a person, their current level (high or low) would determine how they see him – as a unique person or as devil in disguise…
Being based in their low end they can only register the low end of the special person. And only if they are in their high end, could they register and respond to his higher end.
Part two:

Now, why is that that when in a low level or state, they do not register the high person according to his specialness? The reason being that a special or developed person, as part of his specialness, carries with him a deep and uncompromising view of realty. The greater or the higher he is, the more he sees reality for what it is. Being in a high state of consciousness – he has an ability to live in huge stretch between his level and reality.

 Because most people are divorced from their reality – His view of reality (if expressed by him) is either causing the majority to judge themselves, or to judge him. 

Next to him (because of his uncompromising view of reality, as it is) they feel naked, unworthy, petty and wrong. They cannot stand this realistic view of themselves, so they put the stigma upon the one that causes them to feel this way.
But there are those which either are in a relatively higher level or they are very close to him – personally, in both cases this close person sees the one with a higher/realistic view in an alternating way, they alternate between seeing him as he is and between judging him, It all depends on being in the lower end.

Of course he prefers to communicate with high level, or developed, people – but they are rare.

The unique person is directing light and awareness into the dark domains in the other, this is unbearable for him, for in this lighted domains – he sees things which cause him emotional dissonance, and a powerful objection towards the person with a penetrating observation.

On how special people are being treated

Part one:

When we view most people, we see them mostly as they are, regular people.
But viewing unique or special people – a strange phenomenon happens; their uniqueness exist on a bar with two ends, no middle, and one end is the shadow of the uniqueness part.
Now, most people are not connected to their higher end (because of personal involvement, hurt, self-doubt and self-judgment and more), and from the lower end in them – they cannot see the higher part of the unique person, only the shadow. (The shadow could also be called: his weak point).

 Now, the greater is his high state, the greater would be his weakness.
So much so, that it might cause others to judge him and even disconnect from him altogether.
People see others according to their own state of mind. And if they are in a low, negative, or closed – state of mind – they cannot see his high self. So when they view uniqueness in a person, their current level (high or low) would determine how they see him – as a unique person or as devil in disguise…
Being based in their low end they can only register the low end of the special person. And only if they are in their high end, could they register and respond to his higher end.
Part two:

Now, why is that that when in a low level or state, they do not register the high person according to his specialness? The reason being that a special or developed person, as part of his specialness, carries with him a deep and uncompromising view of realty. The greater or the higher he is, the more he sees reality for what it is. Being in a high state of consciousness – he has an ability to live in huge stretch between his level and reality.

 Because most people are divorced from their reality – His view of reality (if expressed by him) is either causing the majority to judge themselves, or to judge him. 

Next to him (because of his uncompromising view of reality, as it is) they feel naked, unworthy, petty and wrong. They cannot stand this realistic view of themselves, so they put the stigma upon the one that causes them to feel this way.
But there are those which either are in a relatively higher level or they are very close to him – personally, in both cases this close person sees the one with a higher/realistic view in an alternating way, they alternate between seeing him as he is and between judging him, It all depends on being in the lower end.

Of course he prefers to communicate with high level, or developed, people – but they are rare.

The unique person is directing light and awareness into the dark domains in the other, this is unbearable for him, for in this lighted domains – he sees things which cause him emotional dissonance, and a powerful objection towards the person with a penetrating observation.

On how special people are being treated

• Life

 on paradoxes and contradictions.                                                                      

Looking through paradoxes, opposites and reversalspppppppppppp

                              
“He taught me an exorcise which was supposed to bring about what he called “To cause an opposite of space”. You have to seat very quietly, when your attention is focused in the center of your chest, and slowly to surrender and to see that instead of looking you are being looked at; instead of listening you are being listened to, instead of touching you are being touched; instead of tasting you are food for God and you are being tasted”. 

 Reshad Feild: “The Last Barrier: A Journey into the Essence of Sufi Teachings”

     

„The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth. “

„How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress.“

„No, no, you’re not thinking; you’re just being logical.“

 Niels Boher.

Part 1: on paradoxes and contradictions.                                                                      
There are many questions concerning looking and reality; do we see what exists, all which exists, part of what exists, what is in us about what exists and more. 

Do we see what is there or what is in our brain about what we see?

There is more unknown in what we see and perceive – then what is known and is tangible.

Here it will written about a particular way of widening our perception about what escapes our limited and sleepy attention; and it is about examining: lack of harmony, contradictions and paradoxes; the paradox not as ‘stop sign’ but as a door to a hidden reality.

In everything we see there is a hidden reality, and in order to reach it we need to align our self with what is ‘not perfect’. 

The passage through what is unknown or hidden reality, into the being of what is there (Martin heiddger wrote about being in his book: “being and time”) is a rare process which is a kind of a Quantum leap. Precisely at the points of lack of perfection – there are entry points into the Meta level. All that we see, be it the look of an office, a dress of a person, the inside of his car, his facial expression, his ‘hello’ –all seem to be what there is, but it might bloke the way to the inner depth.                                             

  

   

The possibility which is there (when we look at a certain reality or a person), to overcome the limitation of the ordinary vague seeing – is possible exactly in the passage through lack of perfection of what is there, (and not in turning the lack of perfection into perfection), because perfection at a certain level, is a barrier of the current level, whereas usage of the lack of perfection (at the current level) – could be a passage way or a spring board to the next, or hidden, level. Lack of perfection could be a secret code, with it is possible to reach this hidden or Meta level, to the inner underground dynamic.

The limitation could be the spring board to the next level. 

In other words, in any observation of something, be it a table cloth in a coffee shop or a person – there is an inner dimension, in which what we saw becomes, from a one dimensional object or a person, into a many dimensional realities. For example: body language – when we look at a gesture or a facial expression and it is in  accord and harmony with the words – there is no hidden meaning, but if there is something which is not at harmony with what is being said then through it we might get at the hidden meaning. For example:  the gesture is not complimentary with what is being said. or in conversation, when a sudden facial expression is contradictory to what is being said, it should raise in us the wish to find out what is not being said, what is concealed, But we, in our on goings, tend to dismiss body language for it does not fit and go together with the shining image our words try to portray. 

A rich field for the dissonances and paradoxes in the body language itself (between a prat of the body compared with another part) – we can find in observing photographs in which there are people; for example, a person smiling and his fists are clenched, a woman licking here lips and is looking at the photographer from the side (erotic message) but her pelvis is loose, a boy that his posture is erect and his stare is lively and direct but his clothes are wrinkled and sloppy. In all of those contradictions there is a saying; again, it is the contradiction that shows more of what is inside then what is apparent on the outside. Another paradox is the relation that one has with the people with whom he is photographed; he can have his hand near the person on his side but he distances another part of his body, another paradox could be connected to objects – he can be dressed in an evening dress but in his hand he holds a plastic bag. A person in the middle of the photograph (a central figure) his face is sad but the people in the sides are smiling.  

In order to get to the hidden reality – we need to search for what doesn’t belong, what does not fit, what creates a dissonance, but Normally we like to look at harmony; a lovely garden, a beautiful dress, a good looking man or woman and so on (it is a kind of therapy to what is not at harmony within us). 

The great art works were born out of a friction of the artist with his impossibility to bring what is alive in him to (a fit and full expression) in a normal conversation or communication. The great dramatic plays, contain within them a friction between the
Characters, tragedies which happen to them, the absurd life which they live, which are full with lack of perfection – but at the same time they bring about a catharsis for the person seating in the theater.
The petit bourgeois look, the perfect look of the ‘little boxes’ of our life – makes for a pleasant look on the outside when on the inside there could be something else (less pleasant) which only be gotten to be looking at what does not fit at what does not belong to the appearance of the external surface.
Therefore the art of observation – when it comes to be – is a happening, it is a bit like a flash of intuition or inspiration – it happens not because of, but despite. 

And why it is like that? Why is, mainly, the paradox, which is the door and the entry point to the inner dimension, or the next level? Well, relating to the paradox in what we meet and see –increases the consciousness to the complexities which are hidden   behind a figure or scenery – in which we look. It could also be said that the more something will be full of paradoxes –the more it will be rich with meaning.  

The brain has got the tendency to create a world which is complete and harmonious. We disregard details which we do not allow us to receive a harmonious picture of reality. Harmony fixes the person in the present level of things, disharmony leads to the level which got buried under the present one. 

It is very difficult to accept that we will always be at a state of lack of harmony, simply because this is the basic situation of being human beings: being not perfect and to never be, but accepting our incompleteness – is the relative way to be free. Unless will be at peace with this fact of our permanent lack of perfection – we will always be covered with illusions.  

Harmony can be misleading and fixing, whereas disharmony could be a push and a drive to hidden truth and to relative freedom.

Often the outer polished surface can be the guise under which lays an unpleasant truth, as it is written in the following quotation by Arthur Conan Doyle, in a dialog between Sherlock Holmes and Watson:    

     “Good heavens!” I cried. “Who would associate crime with these dear old homesteads?”
     “They always fill me with a certain horror. It is my belief, Watson, founded upon my experience, that the lowest and vilest alleys in London do not present a more dreadful record of sin than does the smiling and beautiful countryside.”
     “You horrify me!”
     “But the reason is very obvious. The pressure of public opinion can do in the town what the law cannot accomplish. There is no lane so vile that the scream of a tortured child, or the thud of a drunkard’s blow, does not beget sympathy and indignation among the neighbors, and then the whole machinery of justice is ever so close that a word of complaint can set it going, and there is but a step between the crime and the dock. But look at these lonely houses, each in its own fields, filled for the most part with poor ignorant folk who know little of the law. Think of the deeds of hellish cruelty, the hidden wickedness which may go on, year in, year out, in such places, and none the wiser.”
     The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes (1892)
     Sherlock Holmes in “The Copper Beeches” (Doubleday p. 323).3

We want a good and happy reality and what does not fit to the picture of the world we want to create – we suppress, deny, ignore.

For example a couple in a social gathering – most likely they display harmony and intimacy, and if we want to find out something about their real relationship at present – we might notice that he looks at her and exactly at the same time she turns away her eyes, (and it may have happened 7 time during 2 hours…), or when she talked to him and bends he head down. This is known in psychology by the name: Reaction formation.  

A couple may live apparently in a certain harmony, but often there is in their life a delicate balance that hides with much effort, conflicts and disharmony. “A delicate balance” is also the name of a play by Edward Albee in which a middle age couple is visited by their close friends, but they bring with them the fear from the horror of their situation, this is too much for the couple and the delicate balance of their marriage breaks down and all hell gushes out. Edward Albee

There is an affinity between contradictions and depth; and there also an affinity between superficiality and completeness. The outer image is usually polished whereas the authentic self is less attractive and has got more flaws. And so is truth, which is often hidden and lacking the attractiveness that is being pretended externally. The truth of a person is usually less harmonious then his outward portrayal.  

There is an old saying: “if you want to know a person (for real) – scratch his surface (outer image) and his true nature will come bursting out” 

Part 2: On Zen & literature.

We hardly like paradoxes, and the easy way is to bypass it and find a way which is without it. The movement from one level to the one above is by making friends with contradiction which exists between the two contrasting poles (one positive, the other negative).

The word paradox is made out of two words in ancient Greek; the word para means a passage, and doxa that means opinion, that means that the paradox wideness the borders of logic beyond the accepted opinion. Paradoxes help us to get reed from old Prejudices and thinking stereotypes.

It is like Zen kaon that sharpens the absurd, the paradox and the contradiction, and the less it is possible to solve the paradox the more it might bring about a state which is called: Satori, an enlightenment.

“… In Zen you see what exists through the void, through what does not exist and no doubt this is the highest degree to see things. ‘Our body gets life from within the nothingness. The existence in the place where the void exists is the embodiment of the sentence: form is nothingness. The meaning of that sentence is that all things exists by the void. Void is form, a man should not think that those are two different things”.

From: Hagakure: the book of the samurai. 

 There is a rational solution to the paradox, but that fixes the person further in the existing level. And if for the rational solution one needs to make a brain effort – for the second solution (the creative one) one needs to surrender, to give up. This way of giving up is described in the book: Zen in the Art of Archery by: Professor Eugen Herrigel, he was learning the Zen art of archery, and he is being told by the Zen master to let the arrow fly out of the bow without an effort, and there is a contradiction between pulling the string (which demands an effort) and the demand from the master to loosen his grip. And only if he finds the way to loosen his grip and pull the string – both at the very same time – a miracle happens and the arrow flies as from itself.  

This understanding is also the basis for the Alexander technic which teaches the right posture; that in order be erect you need to give up your efforts to control your posture. (And then your body will ‘find’ it’s natural way for an erect posture).

In order to reach this hidden level of meaning – the look at paradoxes should not be done in a way full of effort but in an effortless almost casual way; Erich Kästner in the preface to his book: The 35th of May writes of how he ‘catches’ an muse for the book: he makes himself bored or sleepy and then the muse puts her head through the door with caution, and when she saw no response from him she dares more and then more, and then when she is letting go completely of her cautioners he holds her by the nap of the neck, and then he has got the whole structure of the book. 

Above the surface we meet an unsolvable situation, in which two opposites contradict one another but if in us we understand that at a higher level, they complement each other, then we see that the unpenetrated wall of the paradox is hiding within it a hidden gate. You can ‘solve’ the paradox with rationality and then it seems that you break the wall but then you miss the hidden gate…  

Part 3: on breaking and turning things upside down.

There are two actions that every developing process of life needs to do in order to pass from phase to phase, from level to level, one stage to another; one is breaking, the other is employing the opposite or the antithesis to what is there. In fact, there is no process of development, elevation, or vitalization – that doesn’t have to go through one of this junctions. 

Breaking: the original example of breaking is the chick which is locked within the egg and in order for it to get out into the world has to break the shell of the egg.

The same example exists in a nation which is oppressed by an oppressor and in order for it to set itself free – has to break down the oppression wall.

There also the chains and prison walls – of the prisoners.

Or the young artist that breaks the artistic conventions (that have existed up to his generation), and then ‘wins’ freedom or creative space that in it he can pour the new spirit that is burning in him. What was yesterday a new artistic spirit (that had to break the old and frozen artistic dogmas) is now the prison walls for the young artist. 

Another form of doing just that is the breaking of the frozen conventions of the old generation by the rebellion adolescents and the young. It is not so important what to break as long as they break; it could be driving fast, drinking, to come home late, listen to loud rhythmic music, to eat not in order, to live in a messed up room, to do piercing, tattoos – all are ways of breaking.  

And now to reversal (doing the opposite): the embryo is going through a process of reversal, from an ecology of water and confinement – to the air outside which is wide and expansive, from a physical constriction to physical expansion, from darkness to light. So, in order to pass from one reality to a completely a different one – he has to go through a phase or an octave change, a quantic reversal. 

This is relating to a story about King Arthur and his knights of the round table: 

King Arthur asked his knights the following: “Imagen that you are in a large hall, one wall is white the other is black, the white wall symbolizing God, the black symbolizing all which God isn’t, now position yourselves in relation to the two walls. Most of the knights were standing away from the white wall and their face is facing it, which meant that they are far away from God but are on the way to him, no, said the King, and he positioned them close to the white wall and their back is facing it. And he said: “the way you are is very near the white wall but you are facing the opposite direction, all you need to do is turn around…”

This reversal exists also in the Major Arcana of the tarot, one intriguing card is card number 12: The hanged man,  

And firstly few words about the tarot: today it is being used for telling the future (together with astrology, reading in coffee cup, tea leaves, crystal ball and the like). But originally it was a kind of encyclopedia of nonverbal knowledge through the right hemisphere of the brain which uses symbols and pictures to convey sacred knowledge.

Carl Jung brought about the term: the collective subconscious, he claimed that there is a universal language of symbols that our subconscious recognizes, and the Tarot uses this language of symbols and architypes.

Card number 12 is one of the most mysterious cards in the Tarot, it is symbolizing the power of reversal in the life of man and especially of that of the searcher after truth (card number 9).

This card is relating to a state of consciousness of standing against, of rebellion. The figure in the card is in a reversed posture; it is opposite to the normal posture that is of legs on the ground and the head above the body. His ground is going to be the one above. He sees everything upside down, in reverse; good seems to him as bad and bad as good, powerful people look to him as weak and weak people – as strong. And he will come to knows that because he sees reality in reverse – he sees it for what it is. He is in the process of coming to know that the reality of human beings is upside down to what is possible for the human being to be by his hidden potential. So in fact, according to his higher potential – human beings are the ones who are upside down.

For most people the head is above the body, in other words – the brain and the process of thinking is governing. It could be said that it is a kind of result of Adam and Eve eating from the tree of knowledge, therefore (it could be said that) the human being should reconnect back to the tree of life, in other words to be connected to basic eternal truths through his inner voice. Hanging (from the tree) upside down reveres the order of the logic and rationality above the heart – and puts the heart, the soul and the inner being into the right position – above rational thinking.

One of the disciplines of Yoga is standing on the head, instead of the blood steaming to the legs and therefore intensifying to the low and hard reality of the ground – now it is flowing to the head and is intensifying the connection with thinking process and consciousness. 

So the hanged man is in the basic position of the rebel: to be against, in reverse. He understands (or is on the way to understand) that truth is in the opposite vector to how the general mass of the silent majority lives their life; they talk and converse but they do it while at the same time they are making the institution of the conversation empty from content, depth meaning and a real dialog. They are having relationships but instead of the other – they put the ego in the center of the relationship, they work hard but do not know what to do in their free time, they build a family which is the most dear thing in their life, but as it is written in important plays such as: Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? by Edward Albee. – The family could become the arena for power struggle. They establish democracy that has rivalry between the parties in the guise of ideology. Politics promises change and improvement but is concerned mainly with its own ruler ship.  

The schools apparently educate for having high knowledge where in fact they are conditioning the pupils to fit into a commercial market.

In this relation it is beneficial to read some radical words from an American standup artist by the name: George Carlin, it is called: the paradox of our time.

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints; we spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time; we have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too seldom, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life; we’ve added years to life, not life to years.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor. We’ve conquered outer space, but not inner space; we’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul; we’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less; we plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait; we have higher incomes, but lower morals; we have more food, but less appeasement; we build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication; we’ve become long on quantity, but short on quality.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men, and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships. These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.

These are days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw away morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer to quiet to kill. 

It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stockroom; a time when technology has brought this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to make a difference, or to just hit delete…”.

 And as it was written by Carlin – because so many things in our life are upside down to what they could be, there is this need for a reversed point of view in order to bring things as close as possible to their original state.

The reverse here is between: what is real to what is fake, the margins and the middle, between the material and the spiritual, between rebellion and what is conventional.

This extreme ideology could be found in an analogy of a term from aviation called: Vertigo. 

Vertigo is about a pilot which his airplane is diving to be crushed on earth and he feels that his airplane is ascending, going up, he confuses the above and the below, he is Shure that the above is the bellow and the other way around.  It is known as disturbance in spatial orientation, it is a temporary confusion which stems out of a wrong information which is sent to the brain. Vertigo as an existential state of being – is when a person is losing the judgment about his life; he is blind to his reality and a strong belief in imagined reality. Adopting an imagined reality is found in the writings of the French philosopher:  Jean Baudrillard, he uses the term: simulacrum to describe an imagined reality that takes over the real original reality. (Here the image takes over on the account of the being). 

Humanity is Shure that it is on the road to progress and is at the top of what is possible at this time for the human, where in fact in term of the existential being of things it is close to the bottom. 

 And this brings us back to Vertigo in humanity; Vertigo for humanity of our time – is in trying to get out of the crisis of values, crisis in personal communication, crisis of meaning, crisis of the institution of marriage and more. And in order to get out of those crises the human gets a variety of advices from various places; education experts, applied psychology, positive psychology, religion, movements and new age sects and movements and many more – and what is common to most is the direction of  climbing or flying up, to cling to good feelings instead of bad ones, to God or spirituality instead of living for the moment and the ego, to work on yourself instead of accepting yourself and your destiny, to encourage optimism instead of a grim  and pessimistic view of life. In other words: you feel down? Choose ways and exorcises that will elevate you up and above.  

It is difficult to understand that instead of moving away from the negative (the bottom) aspects in one’s life and getting close to the positive ones (the top) – one should make friends with the ‘enemy’… he should be a friend with: weaknesses, fears, his inhibitions, forbidden desires and with his anxiety – instead of wearing, above and around them, an adult dress and a mask. One does not need to move away from difficulties and weaknesses, he can pass through them, and this will connect him to his real self (for it is surrounded by weaknesses and flaws which are less attractive).  

The way to redemption is through what we do not want to admit in ourselves, our ‘bad’ characteristics. A playwright by the name: Jean Genet, has coined a term which is called: Salvation through the Gutters – he claims that a true salvation, is for real, through the lowest and repressed parts of oneself.

The radical rebel has the ungrateful mission – to show that what is bellow is hidden by what is above; and before one elevates himself to employ control and logic – one has to meet and accept the less attractive self; instead of wishing for it to disappear – to recognize it as a legitimate part of oneself.  People say to themselves and others: I have advanced, I have learned, I am improving and have been improved – why don’t they say: this is the way I am. And this self-acceptance is taking the bottom as a base and from it to elevate. 

But most of us who try to fly (having wonderful or spiritual – life) are in Vertigo; waiting for a way or a knowledge to come and save them, and this is without them accepting their inner shadow. But only by accepting fully the less desired aspects of oneself, can one reach his true sky.

To be a rebel about the current situation of most human beings, is to be cursed, for the more he will try to get them out of the Vertigo – the more he will be perceived as trying to get them into it… 

“In a society of people – truth exists less in things themselves rather than in what things are not. Our social reality is very ugly when seen in the light of the exiled truth, and beauty is no more possible only when it is a lie”.

R.D. Laing.   

  The Politics of Experience, Introduction (1967(

The pilot in a Vertigo is clinging to the airplanes instruments, but they show him the way to the ground and not the way up, in the same way we cling to the technology, which promises us a way to be elevated away from what is wrong, we believe that with more knowledge and instruction – we can get out of the Vertigo of our life, but they will bring us to be crushed on the hard ground. 

Great artists, philosophers, writers and playwrights – saw mostly the upside down reality of their heroes. They come from the antithesis and examine things from an opposite vector. Almost every great thinker developed their impressive penetrating philosophy on an opposing view to what is generally acceptable, this led them into far reaching understandings. Here is some typical quotes from Simone Weil from her book: Gravity and Grace: “why the wish to struggle against Prejudice is a typical sign to that that we are washed by it? For this is stemming out of necessity from obsession “. 

And more examples: “A method for investigation: at the moment that we have some thought, we have to search in what way it’s opposite is the truth”. 

“Evil is the shadow of good, every real good that has density and solidity, casts some evil. Only the mock good does not cast it. Because all good is connected to evil, thus if we long for the good and will not want to spread around us the evil which is connected to it, we will have to –for you cannot escape it – focused it in us in ourselves. So the longing for pure good presupposes an agreement to accept a disaster from the last order. If we long for good only, we will stand against the law that binds the tenable good to the evil as the lighted object to its shadow, and when we stand against the universal law of the world, it is investable that a disaster will not come on us.” 

This are brilliant examples to an argument that turns things upside down.

Of course the greatest thinker that turned conventional way of thinking upside down was Friedrich Nietzsche.

Here are some upside down quotations from him: 

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.

Sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth because they don’t want their illusions destroyed.

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you.

The higher we soar, the smaller we appear to those who cannot fly.

One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too.

The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die. As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be mind.

The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently.

I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.

No one can construct for you the bridge upon which precisely you must cross the stream of life, no one but you yourself alone.

Generally we see what is there through what is there. And there is no passage through the opposite, and if there is no opposite, there is no point of view that really sees things.

Also in Judaism there is study by the tradition of learning through breaking and turning upside down the Talmudic text: not to read it as it is red at first, but to search the inner meaning by turning the text on its head. 

Here are two more Zen sayings: “The important things have to be treated lightly”. 

”Petty things need to treated with seriousness”.

And finely; the art of employing paradoxes and reversals is not popular, but is the vital tool of the true truth seeker. 

And a clarifying comment:

It is not meant here to say that self-improvement efforts and exercises are completely not useful and not needed, what is important to clear is that those exercises and mantras should only be done after full self-acceptance, not before. When it is done in this order they can indeed be a useful tool in self-development and self-work.  

                                Power struggles

,Power struggles, their power is in being hidden
Most of the time it doesn’t turn out to be a power struggle at all.

Another example of the tactic of the one who controls the relationship is that he constantly corrects the other person. The other person [assumptions in the relationship} says something that he did not understand in good faith, but the stronger of the two presents as if the other person distorts and changes the speaker’s words on purpose.

The dominant is the one who insists on a certain point and is not ready for an independent interpretation on the part of subordinates. This serves his desire to control, and if the other dares to protest that he is constantly being blocked with the excuse that he did not understand correctly, did not formulate his words correctly in response to the speaker’s words and did not agree with the other’s intention – this will increase the insistence of the powerful one to show that the weaker simply does not understand. The weak sees and notices that he is constantly being interrupted and he can even notice that there are excuses that are repeated ‘that’s not what I meant’ ‘I say something and you keep understanding it differently’ and this frustrates him but it serves the powerful, because the more he insists that he doesn’t Understand him so his power will increase in the power struggles between them

How can one know that this is a power struggle? Well dominated and dominated relationships always appear in repeating patterns. The one who dominates will always be in the dominant role and the submissive will always be in the submissive role. And as time passes, the patterns become fixed and become rigid and permanent.

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Another example is objections; One of the known and hidden manifestations in the power struggle is resistance. Indeed, a power struggle can and does appear as resistance. For example, in a conversation between two people, the one who uses resistance tactics can insist that he does not understand what the other person meant when in fact he understands very well, but his resistance tactic serves him by inhibiting and blocking the speaker’s words.

There are power struggles between people, the strong one is the one who uses resistance tactics. The speaker can try to explain or clarify a certain passage and the strongman’s weapon is opposition to the speaker’s point of departure. It can appear as something very innocent, ‘I can’t accept your point of view’ it bothers me how you treat things’ but that’s not the truth and the truth is that resistance comes to serve the interest of the one with the power to slow down and block the other person so that he becomes weaker, and the more you oppose the other person the more He gets weaker and the strong one gains strength as he insists on resistance.

Another example. For example, delays or cancellation or postponement of a meeting. The weaker one will constantly try to arrive on time and if a time or date is set with him, he will try to meet it. The possessor will use the tactic of delaying or canceling or being late – with various excuses. But if he forces the weak to cancel programs because he must wait or postpone the date of the meeting so that the controlled match will become weaker. The possessor will cancel plans more often because he is allowed to. He will not come to the meetings he scheduled, he will be late for them and everything is seemingly innocent and everything is purely technical excuses, but as soon as it is done in regular patterns – the stronger of the two will serve better. And so excuses are the weapon of the powerful to resort to cunning tactics to gain power and postponing a meeting or arriving late and letting others wait is a well-known tactic.

Another tactic is who actually dictates the terms? The one who dictates the conditions is a person who has the power. What happens when the inferior in the relationship refuses to accept the terms of the superior? As soon as the pattern of power relations changes to the detriment of the strong and suddenly the weak decides to stand up for themselves – an explosion occurs, or even a disconnection. If there is one thing that the ruler does not tolerate it is a change in his status, his status must always be the ruler. He can behave in an acceptable manner as long as his status is not disturbed. When concessions express protest or reluctance to accept the other’s conditions, a world war breaks out. The strong can disguise themselves as considerate, as a collaborator as long as he remains strong in the mold of a ruler, but alas if the weak tries to change the proportion of the system of forces or protest or refuse to cooperate with the ruler’s power – at that moment a world war will break out and the ruler will do everything he can To hurt the one who was controlled yesterday.

The strong can give up many things and appear to be very cooperative, but as soon as his area of control is reduced due to the protest of the weak, this is something he cannot tolerate under any circumstances and he will oppose it vigorously to the point of severing the relationship.

You have to remember that relationships are always in patterns and everything can go straight if the pattern is maintained, those who control will continue to control and those who are controlled will continue to be controlled.

Woe to the controlled if he tries to appear as a refuser of the control or protests against the control and thus reduces the space of control of the powerful. As mentioned, this can lead to a complete disconnection of the relationship.

• High status — low status

We are used to people with external positions of high status such as: judges, professors, ministers, managers, doctors (Ph.D.M.D.), generals in the army and the like. You climb up the social ladder to the highest status. and people who did not reach status

This higher one – obey without asking questions.

Their high status is clear and everyone respects it.

But not all status differences are visible, formal, preceded by hard work and studies, and then – certified and recognized by authorities and enterprises.

For there is another, more simplified status difference between people, status differences that are informal and less visible. The difference exists between almost every person who is in communication or in a relationship. It is difficult to trace it and stick to it, because it is not manifested in the external formal world, but in the shadow world of the games people play, it appears in patterns of communication-transactions that repeat themselves over and over again. And this is no less effective than the formal status differences. Between any two people communicating playfully — there are usually informal differences in status; In one example (the upper class

more) gives advice, the other is grateful for it (and again this happens in the repeating game pattern).

One (the higher class) hardly discloses information about his own life, but wants information about the other. He has the privilege of remaining in the dark, while demanding full disclosure from the other of lower status

AwarenessThe punishment of the successful rebelAa

Awareness

Awareness is power. It’s an effective power which can cause an upgrade or an evolutionary process – in a system which is  stuck or is in a hold,. or in a preserved state.

A man who lives without awareness to what is happening with him, in  and around him –  leaves his life and systems in a stuck or maintenance state. continues to live with a system which take care mostly to maintain and preserve itself. And preserving, for the sake of preserving leads to petrifaction, because in nature everything or grows or withers.

People usually do not try to be aware because they convinced they are already aware. But if they will understand there is another level of awareness, or they are not aware as they think, than its possible to talk about awareness.

But ere lays an obstacle too, because people do not recognize the power of awareness because they want action, because awareness for itself conceived as something static and passive. It is needed to understand that awareness changes the essence of what its being pointed at. Just because it is pointed at it, like sunlight which change the nature of cucumbers, prevent them from rotten and makes piccolos of them.

Another reason why not point awareness towards processes and situations a person find himself in, is the unaware fear that if a person will be aware to something in him he will discover monsters, and that will result in a bitter disappointment.

Awareness is perceived indeed as a waste of time or a dangerous act which can open a Pandora’s Box.

But awareness at least at the beginning is giving only neutral attention to something inside us. Neutral, because if there is a slight deviation towards positive or negative identification with it, everything collapse and the situation only gets worse, into personal involvement with the negative (usually) or positive aspect of which the awareness was projected on, and identification with the negative aspect, after projecting awareness in it, traps the awareness within, that’s why awareness is dangerous, because it makes anything it projected on, into radioactive.

So if a person decides to become aware, he should be sure he has the strength and guts not to take things personally, otherwise he should stay in the unaware side.

And back to the awareness as a transformation process. Only if a person project awareness into part in him and ‘light up’ this part, it has the ability to upgrade it and to transform itself into a higher level. The only way for a system to upgrade itself through the years is to upgrade, and there is no upgrade without awareness.

Anything the awareness pointed at gets into a process of transformation and upgrading. Being exposed to awareness separate the higher from the lower. Awareness is an effective power, when it projected to a certain area, this area begins an inner process. The lower part goes down and the higher parts rise up, and by create rebirth in the higher level of him.

Awareness for itself separates the rough from the delicate, it’s a distilling fining process, because a rough and delicate in the same level brings to infection and slander into the same level. The rough always overcome the delicate. If you put dirt in a dirty room, it will be dirtier, but if you put dirt in a clean shiny room you get contamination.

Our system is full with high and spiritual energies and experiences, but also low and rough, and it all mixed together into thick slime. A person cannot set a growing developing system unless he will separate the rough from the high in him, and that you can do with awareness.

At first its neutral, only observe, then awareness which try to understand, and latter its intelligent attention. Those (neutral, understanding and intelligent) are the three steps of developing awareness in a person.

First step- neutral:

Particles (external), The person rise artificial observer. There is a certain compulsory and artificially in building it. It’s a first stage awareness that exists as long as a person reminds himself to pay attention to something. Here the awareness in totally external and not part of the human.

You can say there is nothing organic or spontaneous in the growth of awareness, it is always external at the beginning, and usually comes from a person who has it in a way.

In this level the process is repetition on the issue which needed to be observed and be aware of.

for example, the relation a person has with his mother. Usually a person becomes aware of his mother only if there is a certain stimulation, an emotion, but in aware process, it should be without any emotional condition or stimulation, in should happen in artificial initiated neutral way. Than the person observes his relation with his mother without any emotional consequences, just observing. In this stage it is important not trying to understand it (that comes in the next level), instead it is necessary just to observe for it existence and try not to drown into it or identify with it. To let it float into awareness.

Awareness in this stage also called: the observer.

2^nd stage- understanding:

Mechanics, this is awareness that goes beyond the particles, it is no longer in a state of flashing once due to few efforts, in this stage it manage to live longer inside the system after the first push. it is ‘half automatic” because indeed it needed to restart, but you manage to be in awareness longer, it doesn’t drop back to unaware state right after it initiated, as in the first stage.

Here the person begins to understand what is going on, he begins to understand not only to the issue itself but to the inner processes that happen inside the issue he tries to be aware of.

In this stage the awareness in not part of the human, it is still not part of him, but it is on the way.

3^rd stage- intelligence:

Dynamic, here the awareness ‘lives’ inside the person, it exists as part of his un-awareness, it is embedded. It transformed from a system that needs a push every once in a while into a system that can work for longer periods, and now it is automatic. The person itself does not aware of it, but that’s because it is part of him.

Awareness embedded inside a system upgrades it, improve it and makes it less chaotic, but mostly it makes it an intelligent system, a system which has abilities to watch itself from the side and to understand what is going on inside and with it, because there is something in the system that doesn’t ‘get lost’ with identifying with the situation.

Meaning, embedded awareness upgrade the system from an individual understanding system into continuing intelligence.

 And if awareness is in relation to phenomenon of things and understanding is in relation to processes of things, than intelligence in relation of the cause which brought things to be what they are.

The move of the awareness to the sub-consciousness (through half consciousness) is the move of knowledge into intelligence.

The only way for awareness to preserve itself is to become sub consciousness.

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          The three and the duo 

we start with the individual, with a single person, if he is alone and does not make a covenant with another human being, he is limited, imprisoned himself, and whoever wants to get out of it returns to him.

So when all his hexagons meet someone, he immediately comes back to himself. He doesn’t connect with a pair, a friendship.

A person alone cries out to connect and be two, and if the connection succeeds, he can stand in front of everyone, because now he has backup. And the mutual and automatic backing puts both of them in a kind of bubble that is only theirs and together they will be able to withstand many troubles and public opinion without breaking.

Indeed, if man is left alone, it is full of anguish, as John Lennon wrote:

Eleanor Rigby   The Beatles Ah, look at all the lonely people Ah, look at all the lonely people Eleanor Rigby, picks up the rice in the church where a wedding has been Lives in a dream Waits at the window, wearing the face that she keeps in a jar by the door Who is it for All the lonely people Where do they all come from? All the lonely people Where do they all belong? Father McKenzie, writing the words of a sermon that no one will hear No one comes near Look at him working, darning his socks in the night when there’s nobody there What does he care All the lonely people Where do they all come from? All the lonely people Where do they all belong? Ah, look at all the lonely people Ah, look at all the lonely people Eleanor Rigby, died in the church and was buried along with her name Nobody came Father McKenzie, wiping the dirt from his hands as he walks from the grave No one was saved All the lonely people Where do they all come from? All the lonely people Where do they all belong?

A person alone – the whole world ignores him, he is nothing. But with someone else with him, it’s an entire army.

Public opinion says that it is much better and healthier for a person to be with someone else. A lonely person is considered a sad person

\”The best of the haters from the brother Ash’ar have a lamb in their labor” (Ecclesiastes 4, verse 9)

The phrase explains that if a person works with someone else, he gets to see more fruits for his efforts.

     Joining forces, it is better to be in two (or more) than alone. The power of the two is greater than that of the individual, in every aspect of life.

     But there are situations in which the individual decides to adhere to the version of the rule even if this justice does not coincide with the social norm. This situation is called, conformism. And it is defined as the deviation of the individual from behavior according to an accepted social norm.

Another thing that came up in most of these studies about conformity was that the hardest thing is to go against it alone. But if someone joins the rebel, even one person, then there is a reasonable chance that the one who resisted will succeed in not succumbing to group pressure. Therefore, many of those who want to rebel are trying to rally more people around them. Most people, if they knew that there was someone (preferably in a senior position) who supported their unusual opinion, and who would provide an “umbrella” to cover them in the face of majority aggression, would more easily oppose things that did not seem to them

Aristotle wrote his thoughts on friendship in a treatise known as the Nicomachean Ethics. Before approaching the core issues, Aristotle mentions the importance of other good relationships. “He goes on to explain that every class and age gains and thrives because of human connections, but in his opinion, for different reasons. Young people, for example, need friendships to find their way in the world, while adults use friendships as support and support as the body weakens. This is, of course, a partial picture of why connections are made, but there is a kernel of truth at its core. The philosopher attributes much broader significance to the bonds of friendships than the personal aspect alone. When maintained by interpersonal relationships.

               At the same time, Aristotle argues that true friendships often arise from facing great challenges together. Lying These friendships will usually last for many years, and even gaps in time and space will not easily undermine their foundations. Another characteristic is that despite their altruistic element, true relationships provide both benefit and pleasure.

Judaism finds positive value in societies. In Pirkei Avot, make you a rabbi and buy you a friend, (Tractate Avot 1:6,)

This, too, points to the importance of friendship. Maimonides in his commentary on the Mishna in Tractate Avot lists three types of friends: a utility friend, a marine friend, and a virtuous friend. A “friend of utility” is a friend of utility, like partners, or friendships of a king and soldiers. All parties benefit from the companies. A Marine member is a friend with whom friendship brings comfort and contentment. Another member is the lover of virtue, a friend as a friend of the rabbi to the student and the student to the rabbi

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The Talmud tells of Rish Lakish and R. Yochanan. There it ends in tragedy, but the wonderful friendship between the robber and the Rebbe is something that blows from the story and touches us here and now and illustrates a little of this feeling of true friendship. And it also existed in reality, for example in the Middle Ages in Turkey, the wonderful and tragic story of friendship between the sheikh of Tabris and the great Sufi poet Jalal al-Din Rumi

After it became clear who was the superior of the two, then, and only then, a friendship alliance was formed between the two

A strong and courageous friendship that belongs mainly to men, is called”—.Comradeship, which is a partnership of destiny in which the qualities of masculinity at its best converge..
In the last two stories, that of the two Sufis and the two sages of the Talmud, we find some interesting lines, one of the two was a robber or empty and a poacher and the other a revered sage. And the bonding between them was such that the covenant became supreme and more important to them than their lives. And in both cases it ended in a tragic death, at least of one of the two. It is about this male friendship in which both men begin the friendship with a test of mutual strength and determination and the loser respects the winner and becomes his friend. And accepts the better of the two, and sanctifies friendship over self-aggrandizement. Where does it exist today? And if it starts that way, (dealing without intentions of hostility or destruction of others) and ends with the decision of the stronger of the two once and for all

Now we know who is strong and leading and can be free to really engage in friendship, for it is she who matters

. Friendship between men. A fierce partnership of fate, embarking on a journey at personal risk for the sake of reaching the destination together. Thus friendship between men

. And just as male friendship is a forged steel of two links that combine to form a strong and inseparable chain – female friendship is the gate of mercy, it is a soft bed of acceptance and kindness – into which all the officers sink and no longer have power

In men, the strength of the one gives strength to the one who is weakened. For women, tenderness – enables the restoration of the inner tenderness lost due to the hardness of life

For from them we lived without friendship
For from them we lived without male friendship
For from them we lived without female friendship
Abandoned and heartbroken. Disappointment and bitterness

So much for life alone.

Part Two

Power Tree

We started with the individual, who, being an individual, is imprisoned within himself.

The years are better than the one who has a good reward for their labor: for if they fall, the one will raise up his friend, while the other will fall, and there is no other to raise him: even if they lie down for years and it is hot for them, and for one how it will be hot: and if they attack, the years will stand against him, and the triangular thread will not soon break

Seferi Deuteronomy Parashat Netzvim paragraph 6

I wrote that when the individual joins another individual, and they are two, they can withstand attacks from the others, the majority.

But two in themselves balance each other, and they remain as an isolated unit, unless they manage to get through a phase and establish themselves as a trio.

The most basic and powerful trio is a trio, which consists of a neutral, vertical and horizontal axis. These are the three dimensions of the most basic unit, the triangle.

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Rabbi Shimon says::

Three who ate on one table,

And no words of Torah were said about him,

Such ate altars of the dead,

It is said (Isaiah 28:8):

Because every store filled with vomit came out without a place.

But three who ate on one table,

And they said words of Torah about him,

They ate from the table of the place, blessed be He.,

It is said (Ezekiel 14:22):

And speak to me is the messenger who before the

What does the phrase “And the triangular thread will not soon be severed” mean?

The phrase is taken from a verse in Ecclesiastes chapter 4, verse 12

. And if they attack, the brothers will stand against him, and the thread will soon be cut off..

The literal meaning of the expression refers to a string or rope that is woven from 3 thin threads, each of which is weak and easy to tear on its own, but when weaved together they are much more powerful.

In the Mishnah as well as in modern Hebrew, the expression is used, it is worthwhile to denote something that has high durability and immunity, as if it were composed of several “layers of protection” or shields that guarantee it strength and durability over time.

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Rabbi Meir, when he saw one setting out, would call out to him: Shalom Aleichem ben Mitah.²⁶Two – he would call out to them: Hello there, my husband, a fight.²⁷Three – He said to them: Peace be to you, my husband.²⁸

Rabbi Yochanan said: The years are better for each other, “from the one” – one for himself and one for herself.²⁹“And the triple thread” – this is the Almighty that He commands in the boys.

“Haider’s theory of cognitive or cognitive balance mainly explains a change in attitudes, but is also relevant to their initial acquisition… The theory assumes that man tends to maintain conscious balance in his world. It is a subjective feeling, involving the feelings he has for others and the attitudes of both on a specific subject. According to the theory, each person’s relationship with others consists of a triangle, whose vertices are the person(p), the other(o), and a subject or object(x) that interests both. The relationships between the three vertices can create balanced and comfortable states of consciousness or unbalanced and stressful states“.

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However, in this way we can understand the verse above: the triple thread is the thread that connects me and my friends and our shared ideals.

It also appears (and similarly in other places, for example in Jacob and Laban’s Gilead.:

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Dark, writing

                         Dark writing

Quite a few readers are put off by the content and style of my writing.

They find her to be demoralizing and depressing. And sometimes after reading my essay or talking to me they come out somewhat scared, frozen, afraid of the dark side. The body language of quite a few people is scared, they sit frozen in fear.

There is something in their life that sees my worldview in a dark light.

People who attended self-improvement workshops think that from now on their lives will be full of magic, I write in a way that says otherwise. And as soon as people feel from my writings a different view, you can call it categorical, darkness, they want to run away.

And as soon as I insert in my writings the parties who are not guaranteed Hollywood from now on, introducing a dark reality to them, not only do they not like it, the text of the prophet of wrath in my writings casts fear and dread upon them.

They want to think that now the way they lived, tomorrow is going to be better.

If we ask people how you would feel if your life as it is now will continue as it is, or if tomorrow will be better, most of them will choose the second option, now we have learned a lesson, and from now on only improvement.

I do not provide this medium.

I am saying that life has been difficult until now, and especially if you are sensitive people, tomorrow for you is not going to be any easier.

It scares them, they don’t want to hear that, they want hope and a promise of improvement.

All the prophets except Isaiah 2, were assigned because of disgust in the eyes of the common man. Even today, what does the common man want? good life.

And me and my reporters show that life is hard.

It’s not fun. And this message arouses in them a fear of resistance. A cell in which he was strongly opposed.

So what’s the point here?

If you constantly live with the expectation that tomorrow will be good, and you live with optimism, you are deluding yourself that abandonment, illness and old age are no longer ahead of you.

You are cultivating an illusion that makes you feel good now at the expense of the future.

But there is no vaccine against the troubles yet to come.

What people need is not a good life that will cover the calamities of the future, because there is no vaccine against Christianity to come.

They need a shot that will immunize and strengthen their immune system so that it can handle and survive the crises to come.

People need a boost to their immune system to be resilient enough to survive the crises yet to come.

Without it they expect Hollywood. Hollywood will not happen to them.

They need to strengthen their coping skills. their ability to withstand the load.

It will strengthen their immune system, and they will only get that from someone who doesn’t lie to themselves about the shadows in life.

In other words, to replace hope with inner resilience, and hope is replaced with strengthening resilience in crises. the internals, and this abounds in the dark writing.

Mental health clinics are overcrowded, but the applicants have no mental immune system because they kept hoping for good.

You need someone to draw strength from the dark side of life, it will strengthen your immune system.

And be strong and ready to face the difficulties that await you.

People live with a weak immune system because they imagine their life to be better than it was until now.

And it weakens the immune system.

Because if you constantly expect it to be better – the first difficulty will collapse you.

And I say no, you need someone to see life as it is, with the imperfections that they are, with the inability of people to get along with each other, with the power struggles.

And yet be strong, because you already know what to expect.

Once Emma is vaccinated there is nothing more to look forward to, you can face any difficulty.

You keep expecting Hollywood the first difficulty knocks you down.

The one who dealt only with dark thoughts was Ecclesiastes.

No one wants to read the dark message of Ecclesiastes.

Even everyone imagines that with a commercial with this shampoo with the woman I meet with the next trip to the sand, life will be chocolate.

They don’t need that; they need reporters like that to tell them – this is life.

No one wants to listen to those who bring black prophecies. They do not understand that only the black prophecies will prepare their immune system against the catastrophes of the future.

They do not know that they must experience difficulties precisely to strengthen their immune system and this will prepare them for the worst that is yet to come.

Everyone wants instant satisfaction and now to feel good. And they are sure that if they feel good now, tomorrow will be even better

They are wrong tomorrow due to abandonment diseases and old age will only be worse.

The only thing is to see life as it is, and that will make you immune to the downfalls of the future.

Friedrich Nietzsche.
Today is the birthday of a man who was the most rebellious spirit that has ever walked the earth. An iconoclast, a maverick, a misunderstood thinker, a true genius who with unprecedented and intrepid manner criticized and repudiated all superstitious and unearthly ideals and set patterns of life, even the newly established modern ones which back then were considered holy and out of the question. Besides, he was the epitome of resilience, steadfastness and bravery who in the face of unbearable and endless suffering and pain not only did not give up but lived it with a kind if intensity and zeal that upon learning one not only becomes dauntless to bear them but adventurous enough to seek them.
This man I am talking about was Friedrich Nietzsche. He was German, born to a Christian pastor in 1844, and much like his father, who died very young at the age of 36, died at the age of 56 after going through a ten years of madness caused by a mental breakdown in 1900. He wrote some of the most elegant, gripping and eye-opening books in the history of philosophy, among which Thus Spoke Zarathustra, the birth of Tragedy, Beyond Good and Evil, The Genealogy of Morals and some other are well-known and widely read books which are still of high value in academic circles. His extremely unconventional ideas of superhuman, the will to power, the dionysus are among those ideas which were put forward by this man of wild imagination and unique mind. Unfortunately, his philosophical work and unorthodox ideas were not much welcomed and appreciated during his life which troubled him a great deal, but afterwards, as he once famously said: some are born posthumously, he was not only recognized for his superb philosophical work but also influenced hundreds of great minds of philosophy, psychology and literature.
All in all, he was a man without equal who with his ingenuity, his radically different philosophical notions and above all his magically and elegantly crafted prose left an immense heritage for the coming generation.

The survivals

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The survivles

Being a man is not about how tough you are, it’s about how you control the difficult situations that life confronts you with.
Ian Taylor

I Unusual people in situations of crisis and danger
Survivability is a human phenomenon, but it seems we only find this quality in 10% of the population.

Al Siebert PhD studied the subject in The Survivor Personality: Why Some People are Stronger, Smarter, and More Skillful at Handling Life’s Difficulties… and How You Can Be, Too.

When he was a paratrooper in Korea in 1953, in Airborne Division 503, he remembers meeting survivors from Parachute Unit 11. This unit had taken part in the most difficult battles, so much so that only one soldier in ten remained alive. Few people attributed these soldiers’ survival to luck, coincidence, or other circumstantial reasons. Siebert became interested in the survivors’ personality structure. He was fascinated by characteristics he found common to most of them.

He discovered that psychologists and psychiatrists did not know much about people who deal very well with pressure. And the survivors did not fit any existing psychological category. So, he read many autobiographies and interviewed hundreds of people: survivors of concentration camps, prisoners of war, veterans of the Vietnam War. People who had survived illness such as cancer, or head injuries. Men and women who had survived rape or abuse, or alcoholism and other addictions. Parents of children who were murdered, people who were bankrupted, people who had been fired, and so on.
He defined his subjects as people who had an incredible ability to survive difficult crises, who regained their emotional balance, and who, moreover, became stronger after the crisis.

One of the questions about this phenomenon is whether survivability is inborn or acquired. Siebert had a definite answer: some people are born with a natural talent for survival. Others have to work hard on it, consciously.
People who are used to acting, thinking, and feeling according to instructions, do not cope with the unpredicted challenges of life with the same success as those who have developed these abilities by themselves.

He discovered in them several characteristics. They have what could be called “a relaxed awareness,” a quiet consciousness that might look half sleepy, but it allows them to live in “the quiet eye of the storm” and from there to observe what is happening all around them. This “relaxed awareness” is a sign of quietness in the world of emotions. In general, the more people’s emotions are in turmoil because of a crisis, the more their consciousness shrinks and becomes dim.

Perhaps “relaxed awareness” really means alpha waves, or a kind of radar which at all times is searching around for threats, while the person remains relaxed. This combination of opposite qualities is one of many such combinations in the survivor’s character:

Seriousness and humor.
Toughness and gentleness.
Diligence and laziness.
Introversion and ability to communicate.

In many cases, pessimism and optimism (being ready for the worst and hoping for the best).

Involvement and disconnection.

Survivors have an incredible ability to rise from the ashes of their crisis. Yet, theoretically speaking, many psychologists will perceive such contradictory and polarized opposites as likely to cause a person to be paralyzed. But this is not the case for survivors.

It seems that these polarities allow them a large variety of possible responses and, generally, flexibility, or an ability to adjust. These polarities allow survivors to not be fixed on just one frequency. They can behave in one way, but when the situation changes, in completely the opposite way. They can adapt better to changing circumstances than people who are only this way or that way.

These paradoxical qualities are vital for the survival way of life, and the longer the list of such polarities, the better people cope. And again, it is not only that they cope with difficult situations, but they get stronger because of them.

Socially they are nonconformists, or outsiders. They do not feel the need to belong to a group, and they have no problem with the fact that they see and think differently from others.

Another typical trait is a kind of sixth sense that signals to them how things should be when all is OK. When they feel a deviation from the normal dynamic, they activate their emergency programming.

Other characteristics:

They are unprejudiced, tend to accept people as they are.

Curiosity is one of their most important characteristics, as it causes them to find out to what extent they can stretch their borders. It is a curiosity which stems from nonconformity. When they meet a certain rule, they might break it just to see where it would lead.

Another surprising characteristic is their empathy and humanity. It seems they are not driven by ego. They are attentive to other people, to their needs, even when they themselves are experiencing great difficulty. In situations of uncertainty and threat, they have the tendency to make the state of affairs safer for others.

Another survivor quality is synergic ability (as the American anthropologist Ruth Benedict has pointed out). Synergy is defined as an integrated activity of opposites, which together create a result greater than the sum total of their separate activities.

In fact, all children go through some natural learning process that could make them become survivors, but this process is disrupted when parents and teachers try to turn them into “good children.” The challenge for potential survivors is how to free themselves from parents’ and teachers’ authority, from the dictates that become, later, inner prohibitions, which then function as unseen emotional limitations. During childhood they learn that it is important to get on and succeed in society. This means they have to give up natural potential abilities so as to learn behaviors and responses that will help them acquire a high position in the social hierarchy.

But it appears that overtraining and instruction by teachers and parents will distance children from their inborn ability to learn independently and develop survival ability.

The independent learning of the future survivor is motivated and guided by questions. But in schools the learning of answers is considered more important than the ability to ask questions. And this is the difference between most people and the 10% survivors, for they are not easily satisfied by convenient or technical answers. They possess a kind of inner recognition of the real answer to their question, and no substitute for a real answer will satisfy them. It has to feel right, and they can differentiate between the one appropriate answer and the substitutes.

In regular schools you learn first and then question, but for the survivors it happens in the reverse order: first they question and then they learn the lesson.

Most parents want their children to be decent, likeable, and responsible. In other words, they want “good children.” But these efforts to create “good children” create adults who cannot cope with unexpected and difficult situations in life. The greatest hindrance to becoming a survivor is being brought up to be “good.” Someone educated in the conventional way is lost, once they are out of the ordered environment in which they grew up and experiencing unexpected difficulties or crises.

In everyday life, survivors seem slow or nonchalant, with little involvement in what is happening around them. But if there is a serious problem, they are immediately present, with all their might.

They experience problems as an incentive for a change of direction, not as potential failure.

Failure, and survivors’ attitude towards it, constitutes an important ingredient in their personality, it would seem. Research by Carol Hyatt and Linda Gottlieb suggests that the common denominator, in most cases, is the experience of a great failure.

II The non-survivors.
When there is a situation of threat, danger or crisis, people generally tend to get into one of the following states:

Some become paralyzed.

Others panic (and therefore behave in a way which could endanger them further).

Some become emotional and believe that the end, or defeat, is near.

In contrast to these reactions, survivors can accept that the situation might be fatal, but they do not lose their cool, and usually try to do something about it.
And survivors have a sense of humanity and empathize with others in the same or similar situations.

How do survivors prepare themselves in extreme, emergency situations?
The way in which they ask themselves questions is distinctive.

The non-survivor majority hardly ask questions at all in emergency situations since mostly they are in a state of shock. But if they do have questions they are of the following sort: Why is this happening to me? What have I done to deserve this? Whose fault is it? What is wrong with me, that I somehow invite these things into my life? What’s the point of fighting (since all is lost)?

In contrast, the survivor asks completely different questions: What’s happening, and what isn’t happening? What do I need to do now? What should I choose from the variety of the options in front of me? How much time do I have for response? Should I act or refrain from acting? What are others with me in this situation doing, or not doing, and why? How serious is the emergency? Is anyone in need of help and support?

Generally, survivors are alert, aware, empathic, and able to recognize the patterns in their situation. All of this signifies a high state of consciousness: an open, alert state.

Some of the more interesting research on the subject is by the psychiatrist James Anthony PhD. He wanted to know if psychotic parents influence their child to become psychotic as well. He found out that 90% of such children became psychotic in one way or another, but the 10% who were spared psychosis, developed and flourished much better than children who grew up in a healthy home.

On the Scapegoat theory

On the Scapegoat theory

On the scapegoat theory

Part one:

In every house and city there is a sewage system, in the human body there is a similar drainage system, it is operating through the skin and lower organs.
In the old days the idea of drainage was legitimate and in the open, the sewage was streaming outside, it was in the back yard, even the restrooms were in the back yard or in nature. Today the Sewage pipes deep in the ground, and even the disposal of garbage is through big sealed containers, the garbage trucks come early in the morning and disposed the garbage far away from the city centers.
Even in the human plain all the drainage of stresses, pressures and personal lust for power – was exposed and legitimate; there were slaves, servants and they were the subject for the drainage of anger, aggressions and the like. Today, in a superficial look, it seems that there is no seen external human pipes, which brings about the immediate hope that the load of such negative emotions are less today (for there are no visible drainage channels.
But of course they are far from disappearing, the delusion about their disappearance is typical to a society which is not attentive to the inner dimensions.
Well, today we don’t wash dirty laundry outside, the drainage pipes has been moved inside; the external appearance got ‘cleaned’ on the account of the inner dimension, that now collected to itself the stains that the outer mask does not contain anymore.
Once they killed people physically, the brutality was external, today it is inside, in hidden messages we send unknowingly to others. The external killing is left for criminals, soldiers, secret agents and mercenaries. Another area is discrimination; once it was externa and physical, today it is subtler, concealed; a person comes in and out of society, everyone is talking to him, but he feels discriminated. The massages are sophisticated, hidden. The removal of brutality, discriminations and the like, is done by two agents: suppression and projection.
Suppression is pushing inside what does not fit our self-image.
And projection is an act of pushing outside what we could not live with. In suppression the place of it is our subconscious, in projection the object is the other.
And here, we find the concept of scapegoating;

Generally, Scapegoat theory refers to the tendency to blame someone else for one’s own problems, a process that often results in feelings of prejudice toward the person or group that one is blaming. Scapegoating serves as an opportunity to explain failure or misdeeds, while maintaining one’s positive self-image.
What causes scapegoating?
When people cannot find an explanation or wish to avoid attributing blame to the actual cause, sometimes they turn to a scapegoat. The process of scapegoating can be a long and extensive one. … People are more likely to engage in scapegoating when they are stressed, experiencing oppression, or afraid.

And so we find two scapegoats through which we get rid from our internal garbage; one such scapegoat is our inner child and it is done by suppression. The second scapegoat is the other, who is weak, or highly sensitive, or just a stranger, an outsider, on which we load our shadow, the ugly self, and this is done by projection.
All this is done with great discretion, here we will concentrate with projection; turning the other into a victim to that that the strong cannot live with; making him to a scapegoat.
The scapegoating could be done in a family, towards the weakest link that becomes the drainage pipe for the frustrations and stresses of the rest in the family.
And what about society? Well, generally, the higher is the status of a person or the more he is dominant – thus there are around him more scapegoats who drain his sewerage and thus keep him ‘clean’.
One of the main reasons of people to hold an executive position or a position of high status, or to be rich – is that others (who are below them – statues wise). And this might be the reason to power struggles between close people, in essence they are about: who will become the drainage pipe for whom.
The more the dominant or powerful person is cruel and brutal – the greater will be the damage to the scapegoat.
It happens in personal relations, between married couples, between friends and between parents and children. In the end the venerable, the highly sensitive and the gentle – become scapegoats.
Things look clean an ordered on the outside but it could be completely different on the Meta level (A Meta level is the degree (of understanding, existence, etc.) which is higher and often more abstract than those levels at which a subject, etc., is normally understood or treated; a level which is above, beyond, or outside other levels, or which is inclusive of a series of lower levels).
Indeed couple relationship begin with blessed mutuality, but at a certain stage comes the moment where in the Meta level the question rises up: who will drain for whom? It is also the case between the governing majority and the minority – in a country, or between the citizens of a flourishing country and the immigrants, foreign workers. On the surface it seems that simply the country needs the dish washers and cleaners so that those who are capable will continue to develop the country.
But the problem is not economic or material but in the emotional psychological level. A society which needs people in a lower economic state that will drain for it – is a society that has reached a stalemate from the standpoint of values, morals and spiritual level of things.
The Jews in the holocaust were a drainage pipe for the Germens through which they channeled hatred, rage and hostility. But it reached such extreme levels that the drainage pipes could not contain it and the drainage broke out to the surface, in mass killings of the Jews and only the destruction of the Jews remained the only way that will drain the Germen drainage.
So far about the phenomenon generally, but in order to understand it further, there the need to concentrate on particular segment, the criminals.

Part two:
One of the more common drainage channels in every society are the criminals and the outlaws. On the external rational level they victims of lack of progress and ignorance, but on the Meta level, they have got a drainage function; every government tries to fight this, but is it really so?
In the depth level they can overcome crime, but they might have a hidden interest to maintain the existing order as it is.
The truth, in the Meta level, is that society, in fact, does not want to cut off completely this phenomenon, instead it prunes it every once in a while, and as strange as it may seem, it is actually strengthening the roots of the criminal phenomenon.
Society keeps crime in fixed proportions, so that she could live with it.
The criminals maneuvers within the borders that society allows them; few years in prison, few years outside, one could live with that; raise a family, by a flat – part of life. The status quo can be maintained in this way.
If society really want to eliminate crime altogether she can do it, even in a short time, but underneath society needs this phenomenon, society keeps criminality on a low fire.
Criminal’s actually represent the parts of our life that we don’t want to be associate with. For crime has got a role, it is supposed to personifies and drain what the so called dissent society hides, in other words, the criminals are acting as a sewerage system to society. Through which it drains the crime potential in everyone towards the criminal that like a scapegoat, which is being punished not for his crimes but for the crimes in thought and emotions that people repressed into the darkness of his subconscious. In this sense it is like the catharsis that a theater goer experience n he watches actors who give expression to what he is afraid from giving it expression.
In this way a report in the newspaper about a rape or a murder gives a psychological release to the little clerk which brings flowers to his wife every birthday.
The criminals has got a function in society; they are doing for her a service. Society does a projection of it’s illnesses on the criminals and they drain it out by their actions.
One of the ways to notice the amounts and the degree of stresses that one carries within him, even from many years ago, is called: psychodrama; Psychodrama is an active and creative therapeutic approach that uses guided drama and role playing to work through problems, stress and traumas. Developed by Dr. Jacob Moreno. During each psychodrama session, participants reenact specific difficult scenes and stressful experiences with guidance from a therapist. These scenes may include traumatic past situations. In a group setting, other participants play the roles of significant others or the audience, offering support and bringing to the surface underlying stresses and traumas.
This system causes the emptying of personal ‘garbage’ on the head of a volunteer from the group and unbelieved amounts of stress are evacuated out in this way.
But usually one goes on with this inner residues and the existence of criminals are one way to live with the residues successfully. If there would be no more criminals in society then it will become the sewage pool of herself.
But criminals are only one drop from the ocean of marginal people that became the drainage pipes to the self-satisfied bourgeoisie. One most common example for being a scapegoat is the child in a family, children who suffer, latter on in their life from neurosis, emotional instability, being an outsider, this are usually very fragile, highly sensitive and thus very venerable children, they find it difficult to have a steady work place, a steady marriage, a steady home and generally to settle down and integrate in life as it is.
One who wrote a lot about it is R.D. Laing, here are one quote of him: “Insanity — a perfectly rational adjustment to an insane world”.
And back to the scapegoat childe; one of the burdens that parents load on the highly sensitive child is the burden of what the parent could not accomplish in his own life, he puts this load on his child, to accomplish in his life what the parent could not accomplish. This heavy load could break the back of the child if he is not strong enough.
Another burden is a scapegoating is the one the child takes upon himself, voluntarily; the tensions and gaps between the parents, puts the sensitive child in a position of what is called: ‘a gate keeper’, he makes himself responsible for his parents relationship downfalls, he takes upon himself the unsolved tensions of his parents and they become a heavy load upon him, which do not allow him to find his actualization in his own life.
So far about the scapegoat in service to his masters, so to speak, but what happens to the scapegoat if he realizes the function that he fulfils in relation to the domineering factor in his life? The function of a victim. When he realizes that what he considers as something wrong in him is a symptom for him being a victim, at that moment he turns from a victim to a rebel, and then the direction of the sewerage goes back to it’s origin. And that is what happened to great rebels; the moment they will realize the the master will never give up using them as scapegoats – they no longer will continue being a victim and a scapegoat.
He understands that he needs to be erect and to stand against this usage of him as a scapegoat, he also understands that his bad feelings of himself about his life is not his fault, but is an unfair accusation by the strong on what perceived to be a weak individual. And then he revolts. He does not need to become an active rebel, it is enough that he carries it in him as a deep rooted knowing, and this will free him from being a scapegoat anymore.

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“Society prepares the crime, the criminal commits it.”
― Henry Thomas Buckle

“We are all murderers and prostitutes –no matter to
what culture, society, class, nation one belongs, no matter
how normal, moral, or mature, one takes oneself to be.”
R. D. Laing

“What we call ‘normal’ is a product of repression, denial, splitting, projection, introjection and other forms of destructive action on experience. It is radically estranged from the structure of being. The more one sees this, the more senseless it is to continue with generalized descriptions of supposedly specifically schizoid, schizophrenic, hysterical ‘mechanisms.’ There are forms of alienation that are relatively strange to statistically ‘normal’ forms of alienation. The ‘normally’ alienated person, by reason of the fact that he acts more or less like everyone else, is taken to be sane. Other forms of alienation that are out of step with the prevailing state of alienation are those that are labeled by the ‘formal’ majority as bad or mad.”
― R.D. Laing, The Politics of Experience/The Bird of Paradise

The condition of alienation, of being asleep, of being unconscious, of being out of one’s mind, is the condition of the normal man. Society highly values its normal man. It educates children to lose themselves and to become absurd, and thus to be normal. Normal men have killed perhaps 100,000,000 of their fellow normal men in the last fifty years.”
― R.D. Laing, The Politics of Experience/The Bird of Paradise

“In a world full of danger, to be a potentially seeable object is to be constantly exposed to danger. Self-consciousness, then, may be the apprehensive awareness of oneself as potentially exposed to danger by the simple fact of being visible to others. The obvious defense against such a danger is to make oneself invisible in one way or another.”
― R.D. Laing, The Divided Self: An Existential Study in Sanity and Madness

We lived in secret.

We lived in secret.

 The unknown surrounds our lives in a siege.

 And within that, isn’t it only a percentage of what is known.

 We desperately try to overcome the unknown and expand the boundaries of the known, but in the end the mysteries of our lives increase immeasurably and we are left helpless in the face of what we do not understand, it is the secret that controls our lives in secret.

What we do not know is infinitely greater than what we are able to know, yet we are constantly trying to expand the boundaries of the unknown in the desperate hope of mastering the never-ending expanses of the unknown.

What we do not know is infinitely greater than what can be known, but we are constantly trying to expand the boundaries of the unknown in the desperate hope of mastering the never-ending expanses of the unknown.

 But we will never succeed. The unknown and the mystery of our lives dominate every detail of our lives and we are powerless against the unshakable control of the unknown.

Our pathetic profession to expand the boundaries of knowledge so that one day it can fit into the unexplained part of our lives – is destined for failure.

We live in a narrow and limited band of the known.

 We are surrounded by the unknown from everyone.

Our lives are shrouded in secrecy.

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We don’t understand nothing, know nothing.

Emotions the great parasite.

Emotions the great parasite.

It is difficult to grasp; but emotions could be the parasite that comes instead of life, they are the greatest robber of the life of a person.
As with all Parasites, the emotions feed off their hosts–energy in this case. As they feed, they grow. The parasite of the emotions grow and gain strength over time and influence and even, in extreme cases, almost take over.
The forces and energies of life should come and go through us. We should let life come to, and through, us – but we are too full with our emotions.
We should present emptiness to those energies of life. But our emotions took over this emptiness, and whatever comes into us get blocked and ‘eaten’ by our emotions.
We believe that receiving our experiences through the emotions – is real living. But we confuse between the energies of life (Gurdjieff calls them: impressions) and the energies of the emotions. You either process life or your emotions.
They are a kind of parasite, because they robe our experiences on their way into to us. This experiences are not meant to get to our en=motions but to our being and inner core.
The first rull for a spiritual seeker is to overcome the dominance of our emotions that has overgrown their original size.
On a high level the person has get rich and powerful life going through him, freely, without the emotions consuming it.
Having negative or positive emotions – are secondary to the forces of life moving through him.
We should elevate above the glass ceiling of our emotions.
This kind of a person has got a presence.

Part two:
For a person living through his being and not through his emotions, there is a presence, something that does not come from the emotions but from deep within, and so it is powerful.
His life is so full that they create around him lots of happenings. As much as he is a recipient of forces and energies – he is creating happenings around him.
This is happening for him without him being in an effort.
His life is a great happening, stemming from his depth.
When he meets other people it is difficult for the people he meets- to ‘put the finger’ on what it is about him which is special, for he does not touch their emotions, but something deeper in them; their soul (which most of them are not in contact with). Their emotions remain cold towards him.

A person who is connected to his life does not work from his emotions. Most people are doing emotional manipulations one upon the other, they are playing emotional games, fulfill emotional roles; the policeman, the prisoner, the aggressor and so on.
More about emotional games people play, in the book: Berne, Eric (1964). Games People Play – The Basic Hand Book of Transactional Analysis. New York: Ballantine Books

מה מבוגרים לא מבינים לגבי ילדים black sheep.

Every family has a black sheep.
A black hole or a toilet gets rid of all the inner demons through it.
He has no strength to protest, they fight and he is to himself.
They are bonded, covering each other.
And there was the custom of offering the sacrifice. He exists to this day who gathers between them so that while cooperating, he feels the boycott plot. All but him are partners.
They will never tell him that he boycotted, they just move away and he is left abandoned and betrayed.
That’s how they want him like in Yona Wallach’s song, Yonatan on the run, but they explain; We only run for your blood and your head, we’ll even wrap your head in rustling cellophane paper
And now the coordination moves between the members of the family, in relation to ostracism in the family, bringing with it a sort of too late apology. How the coordination moves
But he is coordinated neither on the overt nor on the hidden level. They have no internal accountability for what they do, that remains
A subatomic particle is a particle whose size is smaller than that of an atom. In particular, these are the particles that make up the atom: the electron, the proton and the neutron, a large part of the subatomic particles that have been discovered and studied are unstable, so their frequency in nature is small. However, many of them can be produced by dispersion processes in particle accelerators. The study of subatomic particles is the most active field in particle physics.
In the end it is the element of the sub-atomic components that determines who will be confiscated if thrown into a hole in the camp

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Jonathan
Words: Yona Wallach
Composer: Shafi Yishai
There is a performance of this song

I run on the bridge
And the children after me
Jonathan
Jonathan they read
some blood
Just a little blood for the honey dessert
I agree with Nietzsche’s hole
But the children want
And they are children
And I’m Jonathan
They cut my head off with a branch
Gladiola and collect my head
in both gladiola and rice branches
My head rustles
Jonathan
Jonathan they say
Really forgive us
We didn’t imagine you were like that.

מה מבוגרים לא מבינים לגבי ילדים

הם לא מבינים את העובדה, שלהיות ילד שגדל בעולם של מבוגרים, זה להיות קודם כל חסר יד מסובך כי ההורים מצפים מהילד לא להיות חסר ישע, מצד שני אסור לו להראות שהוא חסר ישע. כי אז הוא יקבל נזיפה מן ההורים איך זה שהוא חסר ישעאך המצב הקיומי הבסיסי של האדם בעולם – שהוא עולם לא ברור ולא בטוח, הוא להיות חסר ישע

אך אין אפשרות להגיע לדרגה של בגרות כלשהי מבלי לעבור דרך חוסר הישע ההתחלתי
Not for nothing did the snake hand the apple to the woman. And not for a man. And not for nothing is the woman who presented the apple [the symbol of temptation] to the man.
The temptation always comes from the direction of the woman towards the man.
The woman is full of sexuality and temptation, not for nothing that the word temptation is derived from the root vagina, [the female genital organ], all of it is overflowing with sexuality to the extreme. Compared to her, the man is almost sexless. It is a mechanical tool for the realization of female sexuality.
He has sexual urges but they are few and when he performs the sexual act all he wants is to vent and then he turns off the violin.
A woman is not like that, she is so full of sexuality 24 hours a day that when she is in a sexual act for her the sexual act never ends. She can continue it without a break.
The man ends at the end of the act, she just begins it.
Men do not understand female sexuality.
They don’t realize that they are in fact constantly falling into the web of relentless female seduction. And they just obey him.
It’s enough to look at women in life and in advertisements, at the body movements, the facial expression, the tight clothing – they convey a seductive sexuality that works on men and all they say is – desire me, take me, and it works on men.
All female clothing is worn sexually to seduce the man.
In society we abuse the man’s slander as if all he wants is to exploit the woman’s sexuality for his personal benefit.
The truth is the opposite, with the help of sexual sophistication of clothing and body language they make men fall into their net. Because all they want is sex and sex.
The family for the man is a safe haven and if he loves the woman it’s easy.
With the woman it is not like that, she is not satisfied with the family, the sexual urge overcomes her to such an extent that she is always looking to graze in foreign fields.
She is bored of the safe sexuality in the bosom of the family.
She needs the sexual stimulation.
And most of the sexual seduction takes place outside of the family.
Women seduce and betray much more than men.
Stupid men, they don’t know how to appreciate the power of female sexuality.
A man is not a sexual being, he is a powerful being. And he wants to conquer women to unleash his power.
But not because of sexuality, he has almost no sexuality in the holocaust for women.
But women? All of them are sexually charged bombs from head to toe.
All their clothing, their walk, their looks all say one thing – take me, now!
All the ads say one thing, I’m a sexual object, buy me.

In terms of sexuality, the woman is insatiable, she can have relations without interruption. She will always want more and more, the man is satisfied quickly and loses interest quickly.
The woman never loses interest, she will always want more and more.
She exhausts the man with her never-ending demands.
She is a sexual creature by her very creation.
The man is a powerful creature by his very creation.
She is not forceful at all, she just wants sex, sex, and sex.
She used a man for sexual gratification. And she never has enough.
Most women are disappointed with the men they meet sexually. They expect to grow at a much higher level, because they demand much more, the level of satisfaction they need is at a very high level.
Most of the men they meet are impersonal in bed. And most women are very disappointed. They want a man who can match them in terms of sexual appetite and performance. And they don’t find such men. Then they dump the man to find a man who will give her sexual satisfaction on a higher level.
When the man finishes being sexually satisfied a woman just starts teasing.
She needs a lot of investment because her sexuality is insatiable.
But the problem is that all sexual morality these days is completely hypocritical and does not understand female sexuality and does her a great injustice. And putting her in a forbidden house treats her like a modest virgin and lowers her sexual excitement threshold because it suits the conquering man with the poor sexuality, but this is not the true powerful female sexuality.
The current culture does not know what sexual power the real woman has and tries to put her in a dungeon. Sinful of true female sexuality.
If the culture knew how demanding female sexuality is the culture would permeate.
But in a culture so full of prohibitions about female sexuality – women also do not dare to challenge the social norms.
Then the culture serves the weak sexuality of the man instead of serving the strong and potent sexuality of the wolf woman.
Man versus woman is conventional
Conservative, wants to have sex, the place is protected by the bed, a woman is wild, she will have sex anywhere, and the more dangerous the place, the more she teases.
There is nothing more free, daring and challenging conventions than female sexuality.

Gender and female sexuality

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Tefillin / Yona Wallach
Come to me
Don’t let me do anything
You will do for me
You will do everything for me
Everything whistled first to do
You will do it in my place
I will put on a tefillin
I will pray
You also put the tefillin for me
Bind them on my hand
Play them with me
Pass those delicacies on my body
Rub them in me well
In every place he lived me
Overwhelmed me with sensations
Put them on my clit
Bind my gifts to them
so that it will be over quickly
Play them with me
Bind my hands and feet
Do deeds in me
against my will
Turn me over on my stomach
And put the tefillin in the mouth of the reins
Ride me, I’m a mare
Pull my head back
Until I cry out in pain
And you are pleased
After that I will pass them on your body
with an intention that is not hidden in the face
oh how cruel will you be before me
I will transfer them to swear on your body
slow slow slow
I will pass them around your neck
I’ll wrap them around your neck a few times, on one side
and on the other hand I will tie them to something stable
especially very heavy
I will continue and continue
until your breath comes out
Until I strangle you
Completely in Tefillin
The ones that continue along the stage
And among the stricken crowd there was astonishment.

הרבה הורים לא מבינים את החוויה של להיות ילד אבוד, מבולבל וחסר ישע בעולם שיש לו לכאורה את הסדר הקבוע משלו.

שחקן אחד שהבין את הבלבול וחוסר הישע של ילדים הוא יובל מבולבל

בריאיון, הוא ענה לשאלה: איזה ילד היית “בילדות שלי הייתי ילד סגור, שונה ומופנם, ואת השירים שאני כותב אני כותב לילד ההוא שהיה גרוע בספורט. ילד שאין לו הרבה, אבל זה לא משנה כי הכי חשוב זה הפנימיות שלך, ‘העיקר ששמח לך בנשמה’. בתור ילד הייתי בורח לעולם הדמיון. שם מצאתי את עצמי גיבור-על. בגלל שהייתי דחוי ולא מקובל אז דמיינתי את עצמי גיבור-על. בהמשך פיתחתי הומור והייתי הליצן של הכיתה, אבל לא הייתה לי חברה אף פעם. זה טוב, כי כל החסכים האלו והבורות האלו שתמיד ילוו אותי עוזרים לי ליצירה ולהיות רגיש יותר כלפי ילדים אחרים

לסיכום, איננו יכולים לצאת מתוך מצב חוסר הישע הזה כי זה מצבו הבסיסי של האדם בעולם. חסר ישע.

אל לנו לכסות את חוסר הישע בקליפות של וודאות מזויפת.

רק להמטיר על ראש ילדינו וחברינו חסרי הישע חמלה ואמפטיה מלוא החופן.

גבריאל רעם

הם לא מבינים את העובדה, שלהיות ילד שגדל בעולם של מבוגרים, זה להיות קודם כל חסר ישע.

זה מאוד מסובך כי ההורים מצפים מהילד לא להיות חסר ישע, מצד שני אסור לו להראות שהוא חסר ישע. כי אז הוא יקבל נזיפה מן ההורים איך זה שהוא חסר ישע.

הבעיה הגדולה ביותר שאסור לנו להיות חסרי ישע.

אך המצב הקיומי הבסיסי של האדם בעולם – שהוא עולם לא ברור ולא בטוח, הוא להיות חסר ישע.

ואם אתה רוצה לעשות צדק לבן אדם תתייחס אליו כאל חסר ישע

קח את עצמך בידיים, באומרך שאתה חסר ישע אתה לוקח לעצמך פריבילגיהאנו מדחיקים את חוסר הישע ואנו מסרבים להודות  שמול היקום ומול חידת הבריאה, אנו חסרי ישע בצורה קיצונית. .

אנו חסרי ישע באופן בסיסי, מרגע הלידה ותוך כדי הילדות אני לא יוצאים ממצב חוסר הישע אנו הולכים לאיבוד עוד יותר עמוק בתוכוDirective power – fragments   .

 Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely”

If you give someone power, chances are they will abuse it.

We do not use this power, it is the power that works through us.

We can become agents of the Force.

It works through us as an electric current in the nervous system.

After it penetrates us we have no choice but to implement it.

We are agents of a cloud of force energy and all that is left for us is to find the victim.

Then we weaken and scare him more and more until all the remaining strength in him passes to us.

You have to understand, the relationship of the powerful to the victim is dual, it is built from the weakening of the victim, and yet he hates him, without the element of hatred his power would be impotent, he must hate the victim so that his power would have an intimidating effect on the victim. Then it is effective.

And as long as he does not resist, we strengthen ourselves by weakening and scaring him, and then we are free to charge the cloud of force energy with more power.

So there is a trinity here, a powerful energy that is looking for an agent to activate it, and the third element is the victim whose role is to fear and thus strengthen the agent, who in turn increases the volume of the energy cloud charged with power.

Without the power sacrifice the power loses power, and thus cannot draw power energy from the cloud.

The victim does not need the powerful, it is the powerful that needs it otherwise it will weaken and its ability to charge from the cloud to which it is connected becomes limited.

A football team is strengthened by the amount of fans who are fed by the team’s cloud of energy.

The fourth demission – the missing demission

We are used to seeing life in a lackluster, flat way. In order to understand this, it is necessary to imagine a possibility that Petah sees everything in a flat, one-dimensional way, instead of seeing a car in three dimensions, it is seen as a flat silhouette. It is hard to understand that the life we envision and take part in is indeed deep, hidden and multidimensional. And it is even more difficult to understand that what we see is only the lower part, the projection of what is really happening.

And not only that we see the one-dimensional flattening of what is happening, we are convinced that apart from what we perceive as a silhouette, everything else is a matter of fertile imagination. This is similar to a person who does not hear sentences and words, only noise. The noise is the one dimension of speech or conversation. Producing words and sentences from the noise is the additional dimension without which the conversation, as mentioned, would be just noise.

And this is how we live our lives, experiencing noise where there are sentences, syntax, words and a story.

What has been written so far is difficult to accept or understand. And so I will use plenty of examples here and start with the geometric example:

The relationship between a geometric body (triangle, cone, square, circle, rectangle, etc.) and the silhouette it casts will always be the relationship between a two-dimensional body (the geometric body itself) and a one-dimensional body. (the shadow that body casts).

And Plato already referred to this, in the example of his cave; The state of mind of humans is likened to people living in a cave under the surface of the earth. They sit with their backs to the mouth of the cave, so they can only see the inner wall of the cave. Behind the people a fire is burning, and in its light the shapes of passing people cast shadows on the cave wall. The cave dwellers see only this theater of shadows. Since they sit like this from the moment they are born, they believe that these shadows are the real and original world.

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Illustration of the Parable of the Cave

Likewise in our lives, we can understand or perceive – conversation, behavior, personality, prose, article, etc. – in a one-dimensional (silhouette) or two-dimensional (seeing the body that casts the shadow) way. The one-dimensional relationship refers to the dry fact, while the two-dimensional relationship refers to what is hidden behind the fact (the body that casts the shadow). It is allowed to say that it is easier to be satisfied with the one-dimensionality of the shadow, and you have to swim against the current (but more on that later) to be exposed to the two-dimensional body that casts the shadow. The distance between one-dimensionality and two-dimensionality is a distance of complete inversion. And so it is also possible to call any transition between a low and a high level – a ‘turning point’.

But let us focus on the first transition between levels and refer to a specific example – a conversation. Well, as mentioned, the conversation can be perceived in a one-dimensional way, which means that the words that are spoken are meant for themselves and do not represent anything other than themselves. If a person tells what happened to him, for example, in a minor car accident; It is possible to grasp what he says – in a flat and one-dimensional way, meaning without depth, intention or subtext – behind them, only the dry facts. For example, “I left the parking lot at such and such an hour and then I reached the intersection, a truck emerged from the left” etc., etc. A two-dimensional relationship will be the absorption of the emotional layer. How he felt then and how he feels now about these facts. What is his attitude towards what he says?

Here, body language is the medium through which the two-dimensional level is conveyed. And if we return to the first example, then the words alone will be one-dimensional (the silhouette), while the body language will project and transmit the hidden, emotional and personal dimension – which takes place behind the words and gives them depth and an additional dimension. For example, the person telling about the accident – at some point his forehead is covered with beads of sweat (can transmit pressure, stress). Or he joins his legs and arms in a contracted and gripped manner (he may be tensed). or a slight expansion of the nostrils (can transmit anger, or irritation). It is important to note that the accuracy of the interpretation is less important than the actual attempt to give an interpretation (to measure what is happening in a person on the mental level).

And going back to the first example, a cylinder and a cone will cast the same shadow (circle). And you can’t learn about the shape itself, through the silhouette. To stand for the nature of the geometric shape of the body (cone or cylinder) – which cast the shadow – one must refer to the body’s dimension. The first dimension, then, is the dimension of space. The next, two-dimensional level is the body dimension.

If we use the parable of the Garden (Pasht, Raz, Darsh and Sod) that 4 sages entered and only R. Akiva came out of it unscathed – then the level of Hash is the one-dimensional level of space, while the level of Harez is the two-dimensional level.

So much for the transition from one-dimensional to two-dimensional. The next dimension, the third dimension (sermon level) is time: how does the person we are watching (or ourselves) – organize his words and his body – in terms of time? During the conversation, does his body position change, and at what distance from the beginning of the conversation does this occur? When he enters the conversation and when he leaves it. How densely does he speak – the size of the spaces between words, and when does it become denser and when more spacious? When is there a pause? As he speaks, does the pace of his words increase or become more sparse? And when does it happen? How fluent or full of pauses is the speech. At what point in the conversation does he raise his voice and how long does his voice stay high? Is there silence, and if so when? At what stage of the conversation does he choose to enter it. And how much time does he take to explain his words (in relation to other speakers)? The more time he takes for himself – the more his relative territory – will increase. (Some research on men-women relationships through the dimension of time revealed – that in a mixed group, of men and women – the men talk between 70 and 80% of the time, leaving the women only a third of the conversation time).

The perception of the use of time gives us the third dimension, a three-dimensional perception of what was said. This concept is rare and requires a much higher than average level of awareness from the person (active awareness).

And now we reach the last dimension, the fourth dimension. In Paradise this is the secret level. If the previous ones were what was said (one-dimensional) and how it was said (body language and timing) – then here we come to what was not said. what is missing

For example, the iceberg that sank the Titanic:

If at the first level (the one-dimensional level) the glacier is depicted from a distance as a line.

After all, in the next level, the two-dimensional level (together with the approach of the ship to the ice

חוסר הישע יכול לקבל חיזוק ועידוד רק על ידי חמלה ואמפטיהחלק מן הקושי ההתנגדות של ההורים כלפי ילדיהם הוא ניסיונותיהם לגמול אותם ממצב חוסר הישע והבלבול של מפגש עם עולם חדש עם חוקים חדשים – מנסים להרגיל אותם לא להתבוסס בחוסר הישע הפרטי שלהם, אלא בכוח לשכנע אותם שלהיות חסר ישע ומבולבל אינו דבר מקובל, ומוטב להם, להתאפס על העולם במהרה, אחרת רע יאונה להם.

אך אין אפשרות להגיע לדרגה של בגרות כלשהי מבלי לעבור דרך חוסר הישע ההתחלתי.

הרבה הורים לא מבינים את החוויה של להיות ילד אבוד, מבולבל וחסר ישע בעולם שיש לו לכאורה את הסדר הקבוע משלו.

שחקן אחד שהבין את הבלבול וחוסר הישע של ילדים הוא יובל מבולבל

בריאיון, הוא ענה לשאלה: איזה ילד היית

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